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BF not interested in sex

Hey guys,

So I'm a 20 year old uni student and I've been dating my 23 year old bf for almost 2 years now. He's the type of guy that has no problem pointing out what girls are hot and has no issue letting everyone know how much he loves sex. He lost his virginity when he was 14 and I guess was a man whore growing up. I instead lost mine to him and he's the only guy I have had sex with. When we first started dating the comments were like 'I hope you're a horny little one, cause otherwise this won't work'. He has always had no problems reaching climax when we have sex and always seemed satisfied. He has been one to watch porn and wank, which I don't mind, totally normal for guys and chics too.

The thing is he has totally lost interest in sex lately. IT started gradual going from almost every night to a couple a week. Then it went to only once a fortnight, and only if I initiate it. Now I'm getting rejected sometimes. And it got to the point where it really started to hurt me and he's found me crying some nights. I have tried talking to him about it, and he's said it has nothing to do with, he's still attracted to me. He reckons that even if we was single, that he wouldn't be trying to have sex with other hot girls. But the thing is that, I know he is still watching porn and wanking. So it's not as if he is having issues. He reckons that sex used to be fun but now it's boring. and not because of me, just sex in general. But if he gets off watching other people having sex, why can't we do what ever he watches and likes? He knows how much this effects me but cause I don't want to be in a relationship when I'm 40 and not having sex like my parents. Forgive me for sound ing corny, but sex is a way of connecting when you love someone. It's not that orgasm that I miss, cause I can do that fine by myself. It's sharing it with him, that affects me so much. He reckons that I need to stop thinking about the future, that it's just a phase, and I need to get over it. But seriously, this shouldn't be happening in a r'ship that's only been going for 2 years, when we are so young,right?

I'm trying to ignore it, and just be happy around him cause I know he's getting sick of me being upset over it. I really don't wanna leave someone I love when everything else is good just because of sex. But it's an important part of a r'ship to me. I'm thinking I'm going to act as if nothing is wrong for 2 months, without initiating any sex, and not be upset about it. But if after 2 months, he hasn't tried and is still wanking, that I need to think about moving on. Which just kills me thinking about it. Anyone help or give some thoughts from an outsiders view?




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