What is your family's routine?
Recently, I've noticed my Husband is having a hard time dealing with the routine of our lives. We dated throughout high school and college and as you can suspect, our lives were carefree during those years. I'm now 31 and he's 32. We have a 3, almost4 year old and not able to rip and run like we use to. I started with a new employer about 3 months ago and I'm still in the "proving myself" stage. So, I try to make it to bed at a decent hour to ensure I can get myself and the baby ready and out of the house on time to drop her to daycare and make it to work on time.
When we get home (which is never the same time everyday) we usually plan dinner, I get the baby and I ready for the next day and then we have leisure time until it's time to turn in. He's a night owl and usually stays up a lot later than us. He use to get upset that I wouldn't stay up all night with him. I had to explain that while he's sound asleep in the mornings (after being up all night), I'm up trying to get the baby and I out of the house on time.
At this point, I'm wondering if this is a lack of maturity on his part. There are a lot of things that need to be done around the house at this very moment. Yet, he's focused on his "boredom." It's leading me to frustration because I feel like I'm concerned about our responsibilities while his mind/focus is elsewhere. I'm trying to catch it in the early stages before it turns into something much bigger.
Any suggestions?
Recently, I've noticed my Husband is having a hard time dealing with the routine of our lives. We dated throughout high school and college and as you can suspect, our lives were carefree during those years. I'm now 31 and he's 32. We have a 3, almost4 year old and not able to rip and run like we use to. I started with a new employer about 3 months ago and I'm still in the "proving myself" stage. So, I try to make it to bed at a decent hour to ensure I can get myself and the baby ready and out of the house on time to drop her to daycare and make it to work on time.
When we get home (which is never the same time everyday) we usually plan dinner, I get the baby and I ready for the next day and then we have leisure time until it's time to turn in. He's a night owl and usually stays up a lot later than us. He use to get upset that I wouldn't stay up all night with him. I had to explain that while he's sound asleep in the mornings (after being up all night), I'm up trying to get the baby and I out of the house on time.
At this point, I'm wondering if this is a lack of maturity on his part. There are a lot of things that need to be done around the house at this very moment. Yet, he's focused on his "boredom." It's leading me to frustration because I feel like I'm concerned about our responsibilities while his mind/focus is elsewhere. I'm trying to catch it in the early stages before it turns into something much bigger.
Any suggestions?
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