Hello all. First post :) I'm in a very disheartening situation.
I love my girlfriend of almost one year (two weeks shy of the year), however last night I spoke with her and she wasn't so sure about the relationship anymore. At the beginning, like most other relationships, it was AMAZING. We enjoyed each other's company, talked constantly in person/phone calls/texts, with intimate actions a few maybe 3 times a week. 7 months later, she began grad school in social work. At the time I was in a rut - long story short I changed career paths and have been getting certificates/full time job/applying for grad school. With her in grad school, there is obviously a lot less time we can hang out. Recently, it has become extremely disappointing - she told me that she will only be able to see me for a fun night (i.e. movies, or whatever) maybe once every two weeks due to school being so strenuous (which may or may not be the case, according to her last night). Obviously, this was very sad news. What I asked her, though (not her mentioning an alternativ e) is that I suggested maybe I could at least SEE her while she studies. That's all I wanted, to see her. All of this has basically gradually been going on for four months - a month after she began grad school.
This past week I saw her three times and felt extremely cold. We watched a few shows, but she always kept her distance from me. I even watched The Bachelor, just to be with her. She decided to sit at a chair far from me. During each one of those nights when we went to sleep, she noticeably slept on the far side of the bed with her back facing me throughout the night. She basically does not want to be affectionate at all or touch me...at all (before we initiated the break, she did say she would work on being affectionate though).
Mix in the fact that she NEVER calls me or texts me first, and was even upset because when I text I often times ask her how her day is going - she thought that that was too boring to constantly ask that question (in my mind, she could offer things to say to me, but she never texts me first). Also, she often times straight up ignores my texts. I called her out on it last night, and she didn't deny it. She also states that she loves me. She said it multiple times last night (while crying). If someone loves one another, they should feel comfortable and not ignore the other, am I right?
She also sees a therapist once every month (for past medical reasons). She said she was waiting to see the therapist to see if it is her that is wrong in this situation because of school and being so busy, or if it's a problem with the relationship. That is Friday. We officially began our "break" last night, and may see each other Friday night to discuss this to see if we can work it out, or if we should just end it. I also said taht if she needs longer, then that is okay too - that I would give her her space that she needs to sort this out. I don't think she is cheating on me. Her mom believes that this is happening because whenever she gets stressed, she isolates herself from others. But from me? to this extent? erm. During our phone call last night she said that I've been the best boyfriend ever, and that it wasn't me, it was her.
Will giving her her space to realize if it's the relationship of the stress help in this situation? This hurts me so much, I just want to be with her and happy, like we used to be.
I love my girlfriend of almost one year (two weeks shy of the year), however last night I spoke with her and she wasn't so sure about the relationship anymore. At the beginning, like most other relationships, it was AMAZING. We enjoyed each other's company, talked constantly in person/phone calls/texts, with intimate actions a few maybe 3 times a week. 7 months later, she began grad school in social work. At the time I was in a rut - long story short I changed career paths and have been getting certificates/full time job/applying for grad school. With her in grad school, there is obviously a lot less time we can hang out. Recently, it has become extremely disappointing - she told me that she will only be able to see me for a fun night (i.e. movies, or whatever) maybe once every two weeks due to school being so strenuous (which may or may not be the case, according to her last night). Obviously, this was very sad news. What I asked her, though (not her mentioning an alternativ e) is that I suggested maybe I could at least SEE her while she studies. That's all I wanted, to see her. All of this has basically gradually been going on for four months - a month after she began grad school.
This past week I saw her three times and felt extremely cold. We watched a few shows, but she always kept her distance from me. I even watched The Bachelor, just to be with her. She decided to sit at a chair far from me. During each one of those nights when we went to sleep, she noticeably slept on the far side of the bed with her back facing me throughout the night. She basically does not want to be affectionate at all or touch me...at all (before we initiated the break, she did say she would work on being affectionate though).
Mix in the fact that she NEVER calls me or texts me first, and was even upset because when I text I often times ask her how her day is going - she thought that that was too boring to constantly ask that question (in my mind, she could offer things to say to me, but she never texts me first). Also, she often times straight up ignores my texts. I called her out on it last night, and she didn't deny it. She also states that she loves me. She said it multiple times last night (while crying). If someone loves one another, they should feel comfortable and not ignore the other, am I right?
She also sees a therapist once every month (for past medical reasons). She said she was waiting to see the therapist to see if it is her that is wrong in this situation because of school and being so busy, or if it's a problem with the relationship. That is Friday. We officially began our "break" last night, and may see each other Friday night to discuss this to see if we can work it out, or if we should just end it. I also said taht if she needs longer, then that is okay too - that I would give her her space that she needs to sort this out. I don't think she is cheating on me. Her mom believes that this is happening because whenever she gets stressed, she isolates herself from others. But from me? to this extent? erm. During our phone call last night she said that I've been the best boyfriend ever, and that it wasn't me, it was her.
Will giving her her space to realize if it's the relationship of the stress help in this situation? This hurts me so much, I just want to be with her and happy, like we used to be.
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