Ive been with my fiancee for 5 years. We dated for 2 years and i asked her to marry me 3 years ago. The plan was to marry last year, but it never happened. Ill get to the meat of the details and then see if anyone can relate or give me advice
>Early in our relationship, she was always chatting on messenger with other guys. I became aware to this about 9 months in. I told her it upset me and she said it would stop.
>Around the 2 year mark, i went to work but was told i could go home. When i came home she was in bed with another guy. She cried and begged for forgiveness. I forgave her.
>We decided after that, we should try an open relationship. She told me that she wasnt the type of person who could be with just one guy. I obliged and our sex life was pretty awesome. We hooked up with other couples and she was honest with me about every communication with other guys. Or atleast i think. I do have very good reason to believe she didnt tell me about a few other guys she fooled around with.
>She was getting attention from guys left and right while i was having problems finding girls who wanted to fool around with an attached guy.
>2 years into our open relationship test, we hadnt really seen anyone sexually. She flirted with a ton of guys online though. I constantly begged her to give me the details about her conversations but she would change the subject or lie.
>One day, I came home from work early and she was blowing some guy in our house. She cried again and i forgave her because of the type of relationship we where in. Even though i never gave her permission to meet with him( a stipulation for our relationship), i forgve her because it is a crazy type of relationship and stuff like that is bound to happen right?
>Finally i found my swag and met a bunch of girls in my area(im an introvert but once i warm up people tend to like me). I hit it off with two of them and started hanging out with them. My fiancee got super jealous and called off the open relationship. I had sex with both of the girls several times but she didnt know.
>I told her i had to work one day but ended up having sex with one of the girls, she found out and we broke up for a month. We still had sex on occasion though.
>We both moved in with her sister after having both been laid off. We made up and then found out she was pregnant. We decided to move to another state for a fresh start. 2 days before the move, i told her about having sex with one of the girls. I didnt come out and say it but i did tell her.
So this is what brings us to my current situation. Our baby is now 5 months old(my daughter means everything to me) Right now she is chatting with an ex boyfriend from years ago. My fiancee has always worshipped this guy. He treats her like **** and she comes back for more. She knows i HATE this guy, but for some reason she cant stop talking to him. I have access to her FB page and see her texting him. In the past she has told him lies about me. She told him that i tried to ***** her out so she could get a ride home from a firends house. That night he picked her up and they made out in his car...while i was inside watching her son! She also convinced him recently that i beat her. Ive never laid a hand on her. Shes slapped me several times and i just walk away. They are both in an intense online relationship and i just dont know what to do. I love her sooooo much. I love the daughter she gave me and the family we have. I confronted her about her recent relationship with him an d all she did was unfriend him, she still chats with him though. she tells him that she doesnt want to marry me and that she loves him. It hurts soooooo much to read her write those lines. I dont know why i force myself to eavesdrop on her texting but i cant help myself. I dont know what to do so i came here hoping that atleast telling someone all this would help me feel better.
I left out alot of stuff but i think i covered the major stuff. Sorry it was long but i'm hoping to get some good advice or a new perspective on my relationship. I think it;s still worth saving but i dont think she feels that way. She tells me to my face that she loves me and still wants to marry me but she says the opposite to her ex. Who should i believe, the person telling me she wants to marry me, or the person telling her ex that she doesnt want to marry me?
>Early in our relationship, she was always chatting on messenger with other guys. I became aware to this about 9 months in. I told her it upset me and she said it would stop.
>Around the 2 year mark, i went to work but was told i could go home. When i came home she was in bed with another guy. She cried and begged for forgiveness. I forgave her.
>We decided after that, we should try an open relationship. She told me that she wasnt the type of person who could be with just one guy. I obliged and our sex life was pretty awesome. We hooked up with other couples and she was honest with me about every communication with other guys. Or atleast i think. I do have very good reason to believe she didnt tell me about a few other guys she fooled around with.
>She was getting attention from guys left and right while i was having problems finding girls who wanted to fool around with an attached guy.
>2 years into our open relationship test, we hadnt really seen anyone sexually. She flirted with a ton of guys online though. I constantly begged her to give me the details about her conversations but she would change the subject or lie.
>One day, I came home from work early and she was blowing some guy in our house. She cried again and i forgave her because of the type of relationship we where in. Even though i never gave her permission to meet with him( a stipulation for our relationship), i forgve her because it is a crazy type of relationship and stuff like that is bound to happen right?
>Finally i found my swag and met a bunch of girls in my area(im an introvert but once i warm up people tend to like me). I hit it off with two of them and started hanging out with them. My fiancee got super jealous and called off the open relationship. I had sex with both of the girls several times but she didnt know.
>I told her i had to work one day but ended up having sex with one of the girls, she found out and we broke up for a month. We still had sex on occasion though.
>We both moved in with her sister after having both been laid off. We made up and then found out she was pregnant. We decided to move to another state for a fresh start. 2 days before the move, i told her about having sex with one of the girls. I didnt come out and say it but i did tell her.
So this is what brings us to my current situation. Our baby is now 5 months old(my daughter means everything to me) Right now she is chatting with an ex boyfriend from years ago. My fiancee has always worshipped this guy. He treats her like **** and she comes back for more. She knows i HATE this guy, but for some reason she cant stop talking to him. I have access to her FB page and see her texting him. In the past she has told him lies about me. She told him that i tried to ***** her out so she could get a ride home from a firends house. That night he picked her up and they made out in his car...while i was inside watching her son! She also convinced him recently that i beat her. Ive never laid a hand on her. Shes slapped me several times and i just walk away. They are both in an intense online relationship and i just dont know what to do. I love her sooooo much. I love the daughter she gave me and the family we have. I confronted her about her recent relationship with him an d all she did was unfriend him, she still chats with him though. she tells him that she doesnt want to marry me and that she loves him. It hurts soooooo much to read her write those lines. I dont know why i force myself to eavesdrop on her texting but i cant help myself. I dont know what to do so i came here hoping that atleast telling someone all this would help me feel better.
I left out alot of stuff but i think i covered the major stuff. Sorry it was long but i'm hoping to get some good advice or a new perspective on my relationship. I think it;s still worth saving but i dont think she feels that way. She tells me to my face that she loves me and still wants to marry me but she says the opposite to her ex. Who should i believe, the person telling me she wants to marry me, or the person telling her ex that she doesnt want to marry me?
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