Namely, what to expect if you do.
There's been a lot of discussion regarding this lately, so I thought I should clear a few things up. A lot of young men on this website have found (or will find) themselves in the position of wanting to "chat up" a girl in a club/bar and consider buying her a drink.
If you do, and she accepts, please remember that this does not mean she owes you any form of sexual favour in return. In accepting she should at least have a chat with you - if she just takes it and walks off, she's rude and you've probably had a lucky escape, forget her - but that's it. Think of "can I buy you a drink?" as meaning "can I attempt to chat you up?" not "can I have sex with you?"
If nothing comes of it (pun not intended), please don't think of it as a "waste of money" - you had a chat with a girl, maybe you met her friends, maybe you grew a little in confidence/"technique", maybe you realised clubs aren't necessarily the best place to start a healthy relationship and buying randomers drinks isn't an amazing way either... the list goes on.
If something does come of it, well done sir, that was you, not the drink charming that girl!
If you think "Well I'm not spending money on a girl just to get the chance to chat her up, what, I have to buy her time!?" That's fine, you don't have to! There are plenty of other ways to get acquainted, this is just for those who do choose to do it that way.
For some (hopefully most) this may seem obvious and therefore patronising, in which case I'm sorry. However, a worrying number of members are currently under the impression that a woman is being rude if she does not reciprocate your offer of a drink with some form of sexual favour, which is a pretty damaging frame of mind, and is only going to end up in an unhealthy but entirely avoidable feeling of resentment towards women.
There's been a lot of discussion regarding this lately, so I thought I should clear a few things up. A lot of young men on this website have found (or will find) themselves in the position of wanting to "chat up" a girl in a club/bar and consider buying her a drink.
If you do, and she accepts, please remember that this does not mean she owes you any form of sexual favour in return. In accepting she should at least have a chat with you - if she just takes it and walks off, she's rude and you've probably had a lucky escape, forget her - but that's it. Think of "can I buy you a drink?" as meaning "can I attempt to chat you up?" not "can I have sex with you?"
If nothing comes of it (pun not intended), please don't think of it as a "waste of money" - you had a chat with a girl, maybe you met her friends, maybe you grew a little in confidence/"technique", maybe you realised clubs aren't necessarily the best place to start a healthy relationship and buying randomers drinks isn't an amazing way either... the list goes on.
If something does come of it, well done sir, that was you, not the drink charming that girl!
If you think "Well I'm not spending money on a girl just to get the chance to chat her up, what, I have to buy her time!?" That's fine, you don't have to! There are plenty of other ways to get acquainted, this is just for those who do choose to do it that way.
For some (hopefully most) this may seem obvious and therefore patronising, in which case I'm sorry. However, a worrying number of members are currently under the impression that a woman is being rude if she does not reciprocate your offer of a drink with some form of sexual favour, which is a pretty damaging frame of mind, and is only going to end up in an unhealthy but entirely avoidable feeling of resentment towards women.
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