Hello everyone,
I'm looking for advice and insight. Let me explain my situation. My wife and I have been married just over 2 years. She had 3 kids from a seperate relationship and I have 2 from a previous marriage. Around Christmas my parents wanted to take my two kids to lunch since they normally live 8 hours away. I told them I didn't agree with it because it would cause problems but they did it anyways. When my wife found out she was very upset and yelled and cussed me, saying I shouldn't have let them go without her kids as well. Then said that since my parents were coming over the next morning that she was going to take her kids for breakfast and not be there. Naturally, I texted my mom and told her that my wife was angry and wouldn't be there int he morning, I don't know what to do. Well, that backfired as I was trying to have a convo with my mom, because she called my wife and tried to talk to her but my wife refused. She got angry with me and said I betrayed her and went behind her b ack, though those weren't my intentions. So, she's been angry with me for a month and on top of that work stress, moving and getting custody of her neice to have 4 kids in our house has stressed her out and I've been ignored by her for a month. There has been only twice we've had sex and she rarely shows any affection and stays at work until 8 at night. I recently tried to talk to her and tell her how I needed better communication because it was really breaking us apart and it turned into a very bad arguement. I let it go for a few days, then tried again Monday and the same thing happened. She's one of those people who clams up when she's stressed or there's conflict. I'm a talker and this created a huge mess. I ended up leaving and staying at my parents the last couple of nights to her space and time. We tried talking again last night but then she stopped in the middle of it and ignored me. This drove me crazy all night and I called her this morning telling her she was driv ing me crazy because I don't know what she wants. I had even given her an ultimatum saying she had until saturday to decide if she wanted to work on our marriage or continue to hold grudges and ignore me. She said she needs a little time and that she's sorry for all of this. I'm not wanting to get a divorce because she is my heart and soul. I realize the stress of what she was doing was making me feel needy and insecure. I'm not sure where to go from here so any advice is greatly appreciated.
I'm looking for advice and insight. Let me explain my situation. My wife and I have been married just over 2 years. She had 3 kids from a seperate relationship and I have 2 from a previous marriage. Around Christmas my parents wanted to take my two kids to lunch since they normally live 8 hours away. I told them I didn't agree with it because it would cause problems but they did it anyways. When my wife found out she was very upset and yelled and cussed me, saying I shouldn't have let them go without her kids as well. Then said that since my parents were coming over the next morning that she was going to take her kids for breakfast and not be there. Naturally, I texted my mom and told her that my wife was angry and wouldn't be there int he morning, I don't know what to do. Well, that backfired as I was trying to have a convo with my mom, because she called my wife and tried to talk to her but my wife refused. She got angry with me and said I betrayed her and went behind her b ack, though those weren't my intentions. So, she's been angry with me for a month and on top of that work stress, moving and getting custody of her neice to have 4 kids in our house has stressed her out and I've been ignored by her for a month. There has been only twice we've had sex and she rarely shows any affection and stays at work until 8 at night. I recently tried to talk to her and tell her how I needed better communication because it was really breaking us apart and it turned into a very bad arguement. I let it go for a few days, then tried again Monday and the same thing happened. She's one of those people who clams up when she's stressed or there's conflict. I'm a talker and this created a huge mess. I ended up leaving and staying at my parents the last couple of nights to her space and time. We tried talking again last night but then she stopped in the middle of it and ignored me. This drove me crazy all night and I called her this morning telling her she was driv ing me crazy because I don't know what she wants. I had even given her an ultimatum saying she had until saturday to decide if she wanted to work on our marriage or continue to hold grudges and ignore me. She said she needs a little time and that she's sorry for all of this. I'm not wanting to get a divorce because she is my heart and soul. I realize the stress of what she was doing was making me feel needy and insecure. I'm not sure where to go from here so any advice is greatly appreciated.
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