Little bit of background, my boyfriend is 16 years older than me and we've lived together for about eight months.
It's hard for us to actually sit down and eat a home-cooked meal prepared for the both of us. We both like different things and there is very little for me to cook that we will both eat. There are a few things we compromise on, like buying both chicken and steak fajitas that makes it work.
However, most days he's always complaining that there's 'nothing to eat' or 'nothing sounds good.' The fridge, freezer, and pantry will be stuffed full, yet we have to either drive to the store to get the ONE thing he wants or we need to go out to eat. I've told him that if he doesn't like what I buy, he should come grocery shopping with me and/or tell me the kinds of things he wants. He absolutely refuses, or if he does come with me, we get through a few aisles (where he puts nothing but snacks in the cart) and gets bored and wants to go home. One day, he'll be dying for some frozen taquitos, and another he'll complain about them. It seems he always wants what he can't have, so when it's lunch or dinner time (we both work from home) I'll ask him what he wants. Then the complaint is that I 'always ask him what he wants' and I never just make something. So I narrow it down to a few choices and he says none of them sound good. *bang head on desk*
Today, he wanted me to make him some tilapia for lunch. Well, I don't like fish, so I microwaved something for myself and made him his fish. For dinner, he now wants me to make him shrimp (even though he knows how to make it himself). I didn't want another microwaved meal, I wanted to cook something for myself fresh, and juggling more than one fresh cooked meal at once always ends in disaster for one of the meals - usually mine. I told him he should make the shrimp so I could make myself something else. He suddenly decides he's not hungry and goes off to sit on the computer. I let him sit for a bit, then offered to make it for him and to make something else for myself. Nope. So I left him alone. I came back a little later and said I'm going to make myself dinner, does he want to join me? He asks what I'm having, and I confirm the food I was going to make for myself. Realizing that means he has to cook his shrimp, he says "I don't want to eat right now. I don't want to deal wi th the headache."
What gives? He can be SO dramatic at times. I didn't demand he make his food, I just said it's hard for me to make two totally different meals (his complete with sides and everything) because mine usually takes the back burner and ends up cold, burnt, or way later than his. Apparently this is very offensive to ask a nearly 40 year old man to make his own dinner, and it's all my fault. This happens quite a bit. If I don't make him food, I'm in the penalty box. His defense is "well... when we grill pork, I'm the one that cooks it!" Only thing is, he's grilling the pork and I'm inside making the sides. I always have a hand in the meal cooking at some point. I even microwave his taquitos for him. I'm getting really tired of it, to the point where I don't even want to offer to make food for the both of us anymore... but doing that will start another battle too. What should I do?
It's hard for us to actually sit down and eat a home-cooked meal prepared for the both of us. We both like different things and there is very little for me to cook that we will both eat. There are a few things we compromise on, like buying both chicken and steak fajitas that makes it work.
However, most days he's always complaining that there's 'nothing to eat' or 'nothing sounds good.' The fridge, freezer, and pantry will be stuffed full, yet we have to either drive to the store to get the ONE thing he wants or we need to go out to eat. I've told him that if he doesn't like what I buy, he should come grocery shopping with me and/or tell me the kinds of things he wants. He absolutely refuses, or if he does come with me, we get through a few aisles (where he puts nothing but snacks in the cart) and gets bored and wants to go home. One day, he'll be dying for some frozen taquitos, and another he'll complain about them. It seems he always wants what he can't have, so when it's lunch or dinner time (we both work from home) I'll ask him what he wants. Then the complaint is that I 'always ask him what he wants' and I never just make something. So I narrow it down to a few choices and he says none of them sound good. *bang head on desk*
Today, he wanted me to make him some tilapia for lunch. Well, I don't like fish, so I microwaved something for myself and made him his fish. For dinner, he now wants me to make him shrimp (even though he knows how to make it himself). I didn't want another microwaved meal, I wanted to cook something for myself fresh, and juggling more than one fresh cooked meal at once always ends in disaster for one of the meals - usually mine. I told him he should make the shrimp so I could make myself something else. He suddenly decides he's not hungry and goes off to sit on the computer. I let him sit for a bit, then offered to make it for him and to make something else for myself. Nope. So I left him alone. I came back a little later and said I'm going to make myself dinner, does he want to join me? He asks what I'm having, and I confirm the food I was going to make for myself. Realizing that means he has to cook his shrimp, he says "I don't want to eat right now. I don't want to deal wi th the headache."
What gives? He can be SO dramatic at times. I didn't demand he make his food, I just said it's hard for me to make two totally different meals (his complete with sides and everything) because mine usually takes the back burner and ends up cold, burnt, or way later than his. Apparently this is very offensive to ask a nearly 40 year old man to make his own dinner, and it's all my fault. This happens quite a bit. If I don't make him food, I'm in the penalty box. His defense is "well... when we grill pork, I'm the one that cooks it!" Only thing is, he's grilling the pork and I'm inside making the sides. I always have a hand in the meal cooking at some point. I even microwave his taquitos for him. I'm getting really tired of it, to the point where I don't even want to offer to make food for the both of us anymore... but doing that will start another battle too. What should I do?
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