Hi
So a friend and I ( we were 'best friends' during high school) kind of started to drift apart at Uni. Basically I felt like she treated me really badly during high school and in first year of uni. In second year when we started to drift apart, I didn't really make any effort to stop it because honestly I liked it better when she wasn't around. I liked being able to go home not feeling **** about myself everyday. And it wasn't like she was actively nasty but she has the tendency to be bitchy and say the wrong things in the wrong way. Especially when she was around another friend of ours. They always used to make me feel **** about myself (again not actively) and I also got the feeling that they didn't respect as much because I wasn't as good looking or well dressed as them (they both cared a lot about these things). I just felt so much more confident and secure with myself after we stopped hanging out with her so much.
And anyway apparently she felt really lonely during this time and felt like she has no friends (ignoring the fact that she has INTENTIONALLY done this to me the previous year, and even after we sorted out a disagreement she still made bitchy comments or ignored me) which is fair enough and I accept a certain amount of responsibility for this. It was wrong of me to not put much effort into maintaining this friendship (especially since, most of the time I never actually communicated to her all the problems I had with her). But the problem is this:
She has obviously spoken to her parents about her situation and I'm sure painted me in a very bad light. Since then I guess they hate me because we were all at her birthday a while after this (after me and her sorted out our differences) and when I said Hi then just COMPLETELY blanked. No hello even though I said Hi twice thinking they might not have heard me and nope...no reply. No eye contact even.
What bothers me is that they are only looking at the bad things I've done and not at all at the things their daughter has done. And to be honest I really think that if it were my parents, they would atleast have the decency to say hi regardless of what they thought of me.
Do you think they were right in doing this? Or is it just emotionally immature and classless of them? I've never been disliked by anyone like this before,esp. not adults and I'm not sure how to handle it.
TL;DR: Me and friend has a falling out and her parents have only heard her side of the story. Even after friend and I had a patch up her parents still chose to ignore me when I greeted them at her birthday party, was it right of them?
Thanks
So a friend and I ( we were 'best friends' during high school) kind of started to drift apart at Uni. Basically I felt like she treated me really badly during high school and in first year of uni. In second year when we started to drift apart, I didn't really make any effort to stop it because honestly I liked it better when she wasn't around. I liked being able to go home not feeling **** about myself everyday. And it wasn't like she was actively nasty but she has the tendency to be bitchy and say the wrong things in the wrong way. Especially when she was around another friend of ours. They always used to make me feel **** about myself (again not actively) and I also got the feeling that they didn't respect as much because I wasn't as good looking or well dressed as them (they both cared a lot about these things). I just felt so much more confident and secure with myself after we stopped hanging out with her so much.
And anyway apparently she felt really lonely during this time and felt like she has no friends (ignoring the fact that she has INTENTIONALLY done this to me the previous year, and even after we sorted out a disagreement she still made bitchy comments or ignored me) which is fair enough and I accept a certain amount of responsibility for this. It was wrong of me to not put much effort into maintaining this friendship (especially since, most of the time I never actually communicated to her all the problems I had with her). But the problem is this:
She has obviously spoken to her parents about her situation and I'm sure painted me in a very bad light. Since then I guess they hate me because we were all at her birthday a while after this (after me and her sorted out our differences) and when I said Hi then just COMPLETELY blanked. No hello even though I said Hi twice thinking they might not have heard me and nope...no reply. No eye contact even.
What bothers me is that they are only looking at the bad things I've done and not at all at the things their daughter has done. And to be honest I really think that if it were my parents, they would atleast have the decency to say hi regardless of what they thought of me.
Do you think they were right in doing this? Or is it just emotionally immature and classless of them? I've never been disliked by anyone like this before,esp. not adults and I'm not sure how to handle it.
TL;DR: Me and friend has a falling out and her parents have only heard her side of the story. Even after friend and I had a patch up her parents still chose to ignore me when I greeted them at her birthday party, was it right of them?
Thanks
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