I am one year out of a divorce (very very short marriage) from a sex addict. As soon as I found out, I left him. We were officially divorced in March 2013. I'm over it and don't feel any long term effects from my cheating ex-husband.
Since that time, I started dating someone whom I thought had great potential: good job, treated me well, solid background/family, etc. We actually grew up together. We are both in our late 30s and his longest relationship before me was 5 months... when he was 20 (red flag). My longest relationship was 4 years. I've had to "coach" him on how to be in a long term relationship. Things were going great until January 2014 when he changed jobs. In March 2014, I not only changed my job, I changed my entire career. Big change. We started fighting a lot from Jan-March. Seems natural, given the big changes in both of our lives.
Here's the reason why we just broke up (we made it 6 months).. I know this sounds dumb, but its apparently a big problem: My entire family is doctors. Everyone. Parents, siblings, uncles, their spouses, etc. I am also a professional, but not a doctor. My bf (now ex-bf) believes heavily in naturopaths, which reject the entire idea of modern medicine. I cannot control him going to a naturopath, but I can control my future children from going. I don't believe it naturopaths. He does. Apparently, he's been going every other month since 2007 and he wants his children (from infancy) to see one each month. His naturo is $500/hour. I cannot allow my kids to see someone who outright rejects western medicine. My family would think I'm crazy.
I told him he can go all he wants (I can't control him) but i am not comfortable with my future kids going when they're young (and I won't force it on them). He wants to take them from infancy. A pediatrician is OK too but he wants to supplement it with a naturopath. I know it seems dumb, but its a big problem for us and we're so damaged now, I think its impossible to get back together. He said his nature does chiro, acupuncture, diet advice, and she has these metal sticks that tell you if your internal organs are functioning properly (WTF?!?!). It seems like voo doo to me. My suggested compromise was: take them to a chiro, acupuncturist, a dietician, etc... anything but a naturopath. He said no. Essentially he won't compromise.
Is this dumb? To break up over a naturopath for kids we don't have?
Since that time, I started dating someone whom I thought had great potential: good job, treated me well, solid background/family, etc. We actually grew up together. We are both in our late 30s and his longest relationship before me was 5 months... when he was 20 (red flag). My longest relationship was 4 years. I've had to "coach" him on how to be in a long term relationship. Things were going great until January 2014 when he changed jobs. In March 2014, I not only changed my job, I changed my entire career. Big change. We started fighting a lot from Jan-March. Seems natural, given the big changes in both of our lives.
Here's the reason why we just broke up (we made it 6 months).. I know this sounds dumb, but its apparently a big problem: My entire family is doctors. Everyone. Parents, siblings, uncles, their spouses, etc. I am also a professional, but not a doctor. My bf (now ex-bf) believes heavily in naturopaths, which reject the entire idea of modern medicine. I cannot control him going to a naturopath, but I can control my future children from going. I don't believe it naturopaths. He does. Apparently, he's been going every other month since 2007 and he wants his children (from infancy) to see one each month. His naturo is $500/hour. I cannot allow my kids to see someone who outright rejects western medicine. My family would think I'm crazy.
I told him he can go all he wants (I can't control him) but i am not comfortable with my future kids going when they're young (and I won't force it on them). He wants to take them from infancy. A pediatrician is OK too but he wants to supplement it with a naturopath. I know it seems dumb, but its a big problem for us and we're so damaged now, I think its impossible to get back together. He said his nature does chiro, acupuncture, diet advice, and she has these metal sticks that tell you if your internal organs are functioning properly (WTF?!?!). It seems like voo doo to me. My suggested compromise was: take them to a chiro, acupuncturist, a dietician, etc... anything but a naturopath. He said no. Essentially he won't compromise.
Is this dumb? To break up over a naturopath for kids we don't have?
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