My DH and I are currently staying at my parent's house, as we recently moved to this town and are looking at buying a house after housesitting (and dogsitting) for a long holiday they are taking.
DH's sister came back from overseas travels late last year and had no place organised to live so my parents said she could stay in their caravan on their property, until xmas. SIL just never bothered organising anywhere else to stay. Then, MIL abused me while visiting SIL early in the new year, and my father said she wasn't welcome back, EVER. SIL felt uncomfortable staying after this, despite her agreeing her mother was wrong and not having much to do with it. MIL would always contact SIL so she felt it best if she left. That was fine.
Now SIL sends DH a message asking when my parents are leaving because she is finding it expensive to live here (she's not looking for anywhere to rent, just staying in a caravan park), and she works a fly in/fly out job.
So DH says they aren't leaving for at least a month yet, she says, okay, I might move to another country... er, wtf?
I just don't get how moving away is going to help finances, but that's her choice. We can't be expected to look after a grown woman just because she doesn't want to get a full time job and stay in one spot right? Plus, if she wants to live here, using us as a place to live between work stints and a place to store her car and belongings (plus paying quite cheap board, and not paying anything when she's not here), it really should be my parents she asks, not my DH; it's not our house, it's theirs, and they didn't have any obligation to help her out the first time, seems a bit much to impose on their generosity yet again.
Don't get me wrong, I love SIL, she's a great friend, but this irritated me. Does it just seem wrong to anyone else, or maybe I'm just too sensitive since I've had so many issues lately with MIL that I'm not being fair to SIL.
DH's sister came back from overseas travels late last year and had no place organised to live so my parents said she could stay in their caravan on their property, until xmas. SIL just never bothered organising anywhere else to stay. Then, MIL abused me while visiting SIL early in the new year, and my father said she wasn't welcome back, EVER. SIL felt uncomfortable staying after this, despite her agreeing her mother was wrong and not having much to do with it. MIL would always contact SIL so she felt it best if she left. That was fine.
Now SIL sends DH a message asking when my parents are leaving because she is finding it expensive to live here (she's not looking for anywhere to rent, just staying in a caravan park), and she works a fly in/fly out job.
So DH says they aren't leaving for at least a month yet, she says, okay, I might move to another country... er, wtf?
I just don't get how moving away is going to help finances, but that's her choice. We can't be expected to look after a grown woman just because she doesn't want to get a full time job and stay in one spot right? Plus, if she wants to live here, using us as a place to live between work stints and a place to store her car and belongings (plus paying quite cheap board, and not paying anything when she's not here), it really should be my parents she asks, not my DH; it's not our house, it's theirs, and they didn't have any obligation to help her out the first time, seems a bit much to impose on their generosity yet again.
Don't get me wrong, I love SIL, she's a great friend, but this irritated me. Does it just seem wrong to anyone else, or maybe I'm just too sensitive since I've had so many issues lately with MIL that I'm not being fair to SIL.
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