I need some advice, newly registered here been lurking for a few weeks reading....
Am I over thinking this situation and being irrational?
First of all, my wife started a new job about 4 months ago through these people we met at a convenient store. They own a towing company....I was working there at one point, but felt the pay was not competitive with other companies doing the same work so I left and she decided she would like to work and not stay at home anymore. (Previously stay at home for 3yrs - the wife while I was working). So now I am staying at home with our son which is 3 yrs old.
Anyway, skip ahead and she went from working 5-8hrs a day, to now working maybe 10-12hrs out of the day and went from hourly, to salary pay. (It's a reposession agency) and its only her (my wife), the owner and the owners wife that are working there). And they are always together working (all 3)
Now they've suddenly gotten so busy that sometimes they ask her to stay the night over at their house because the owners wife owns her own company as well and my wife helps out there too. It's something to do with the stock market and can be done from home..... anyway, It has happened 3 times already. And she says its weird to call them her "bosses" because they are really good friends now and share everything. She's admitted that they've talked about us in the bedroom (her and his wife only supposedly) and she even started talking to them about how I was aggravated that she was working so many hours, we weren't having sex (my choice, because I was frustrated), etc etc after I confronted her about it.
Then suddenly, shes running the idea to me about have I ever thought about bringing another girl in the bedroom with us, so I was honest with her and said yeah, what guy wouldn't have this kind of fantasy? I never thought of acting it out though.....it kinda turned me on and we started having sex again and the relationship is going great besides her working so much.....
Then come down the road later, shes admitting to me that the owner (wife/husband) use to have an open relationship because the owners wife use to be really sheltered and not much experience with porn, toys, etc and he has opened her up to it now. (They've been married 15yrs)
So now I'm thinking, maybe she tried it out with them, liked it and now is wanting to bring someone in with us (she specifically stated it wouldn't be his wife/him...)
I've asked her to be 100% truthful with me, and it seems she is telling the truth, but I'm not sure I can trust her because she has told me before to my face that she has hidden stuff from me in the past to not make me angry. (I.e: I've caught her coming home at 3am, and sitting up saying she couldn't sleep, but she was texting with the husband. I confronted her & the husband and they both say it was just them talking about us and how we are doing in our relationship because they could see there was tension due to her working so much. I checked the AT&T Text/Phone logs......she lied to my face about it. So its hard to believe it, besides who knows what they really were talking about because she deleted the text logs......its such a coincidence that this all popped up and is being discussed within very close timelines....
Am I overthinking this and should just let it go? The past week we have been getting along much better, having sex alot and we've changed it up a bit in the bedroom, dirty talk, etc. We've been hanging out with them, going skating, barbequeing, inviting them to our house and she cooks for us all and their kids.
She's told me that she enjoys us spending time with them together, because they are another married couple and this is our first friends that are married, all others aren't...or are divoced. We've been together nearly 6yrs, and married 5.
Someone help bring peace to my mind :/
Am I over thinking this situation and being irrational?
First of all, my wife started a new job about 4 months ago through these people we met at a convenient store. They own a towing company....I was working there at one point, but felt the pay was not competitive with other companies doing the same work so I left and she decided she would like to work and not stay at home anymore. (Previously stay at home for 3yrs - the wife while I was working). So now I am staying at home with our son which is 3 yrs old.
Anyway, skip ahead and she went from working 5-8hrs a day, to now working maybe 10-12hrs out of the day and went from hourly, to salary pay. (It's a reposession agency) and its only her (my wife), the owner and the owners wife that are working there). And they are always together working (all 3)
Now they've suddenly gotten so busy that sometimes they ask her to stay the night over at their house because the owners wife owns her own company as well and my wife helps out there too. It's something to do with the stock market and can be done from home..... anyway, It has happened 3 times already. And she says its weird to call them her "bosses" because they are really good friends now and share everything. She's admitted that they've talked about us in the bedroom (her and his wife only supposedly) and she even started talking to them about how I was aggravated that she was working so many hours, we weren't having sex (my choice, because I was frustrated), etc etc after I confronted her about it.
Then suddenly, shes running the idea to me about have I ever thought about bringing another girl in the bedroom with us, so I was honest with her and said yeah, what guy wouldn't have this kind of fantasy? I never thought of acting it out though.....it kinda turned me on and we started having sex again and the relationship is going great besides her working so much.....
Then come down the road later, shes admitting to me that the owner (wife/husband) use to have an open relationship because the owners wife use to be really sheltered and not much experience with porn, toys, etc and he has opened her up to it now. (They've been married 15yrs)
So now I'm thinking, maybe she tried it out with them, liked it and now is wanting to bring someone in with us (she specifically stated it wouldn't be his wife/him...)
I've asked her to be 100% truthful with me, and it seems she is telling the truth, but I'm not sure I can trust her because she has told me before to my face that she has hidden stuff from me in the past to not make me angry. (I.e: I've caught her coming home at 3am, and sitting up saying she couldn't sleep, but she was texting with the husband. I confronted her & the husband and they both say it was just them talking about us and how we are doing in our relationship because they could see there was tension due to her working so much. I checked the AT&T Text/Phone logs......she lied to my face about it. So its hard to believe it, besides who knows what they really were talking about because she deleted the text logs......its such a coincidence that this all popped up and is being discussed within very close timelines....
Am I overthinking this and should just let it go? The past week we have been getting along much better, having sex alot and we've changed it up a bit in the bedroom, dirty talk, etc. We've been hanging out with them, going skating, barbequeing, inviting them to our house and she cooks for us all and their kids.
She's told me that she enjoys us spending time with them together, because they are another married couple and this is our first friends that are married, all others aren't...or are divoced. We've been together nearly 6yrs, and married 5.
Someone help bring peace to my mind :/
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