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I've been with my boyfriend for four years and he has never had a job while I've known him. For a while it didn't bother me as I was a student, but now I'm realising that he should really grow up.
He does apply for jobs, but never gets any further, but he only applies to jobs that he thinks he will love. He says there are four things he won't do: care work, warehouse work, fast food and cleaning. Unfortunately, in our town, that pretty well sums up all that's on offer at the moment.
Until he has a job, I feel like we can't move on in our relationship. He's 30 and I'm 24 so we're at the stage where we're talking about things like getting a house and starting a family - neither of which we can do while he's on benefits (I've always been the type of person who likes to pay their own way, and could never have kids and just sponge).
Am am I being unreasonable to expect him to get a job, perhaps in a warehouse, that he wouldn't enjoy? Or should he realise life isn't all fun and games and get on with it?
I have a job that I love, and I understand that I'm lucky to have that - but I honestly believe that I would apply for everything if I was on benefits.
Thanks in advance for any replies - and sorry for any typing errors, I'm on my BB.
I've been with my boyfriend for four years and he has never had a job while I've known him. For a while it didn't bother me as I was a student, but now I'm realising that he should really grow up.
He does apply for jobs, but never gets any further, but he only applies to jobs that he thinks he will love. He says there are four things he won't do: care work, warehouse work, fast food and cleaning. Unfortunately, in our town, that pretty well sums up all that's on offer at the moment.
Until he has a job, I feel like we can't move on in our relationship. He's 30 and I'm 24 so we're at the stage where we're talking about things like getting a house and starting a family - neither of which we can do while he's on benefits (I've always been the type of person who likes to pay their own way, and could never have kids and just sponge).
Am am I being unreasonable to expect him to get a job, perhaps in a warehouse, that he wouldn't enjoy? Or should he realise life isn't all fun and games and get on with it?
I have a job that I love, and I understand that I'm lucky to have that - but I honestly believe that I would apply for everything if I was on benefits.
Thanks in advance for any replies - and sorry for any typing errors, I'm on my BB.
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