| Yesterday I found myself giving my husband the cold shoulder/silent treatment. At least that is what he would call it. I, however, feel very strongly that I was attempting to avoid an argument where I would be made to feel unsupportive or selfish or negative or have "anger management issues." I also feel that having banal chit chat when there is a problem to resolve is counter productive and glosses over the issue at hand. Like he's steamrolled me somehow. In other words I strongly feel that remaining silent allows me to not blow up, take a breather, and sort through my feelings. The more that he wants to "talk about it" the more I feel trapped in a damned if I do, damned if I don't situation. I know that some people consider it a "childish" thing to do but I have lost trust that my husband can resolve an argument without using below the belt tactics that attack my character. Many people will claim that the silent treatment is abusive, and maybe in some situations, it can be but from personal experience I tend to view it as a self defense mechanism. What are your thoughts? | |||
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silent treatment revisited
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