Is It Cheating?

I have been married to the same man for 25 years. We have an active and very sensual sex life. Before all the young people simultaneously, go "ewwww" and quit reading, this is very good news. Your libido stays active and interested well into your 60's. Well, I digress. Personally, I stay fit and toned and am very sexual. My husband is all of that and more. For as long as I have known him, he has enjoyed porn. First it was magazines, then internet pictures and videos. Lately, with the introduction of iPad, his online activity has become very secretive and secluded. My fear is that he has graduated to on line chat or live interaction. For me, and I believe he knows this, "live" crosses a line into infidelity. I've wrestled with plausible explanations: needs the variety after 25 years, needs additional stimulation to achieve erection, or, he is completely bored with my body and sexuality. I am sure I won't know the reason unless I confr ont him. I don't want to confront him for any number of reasons, not the least of which I don't want a divorce. So my real question is this: How do I live with the situation and cope with the anxiety. The anxiety is serious. It affects my appetite, my ability to focus, my sleep and my emotional stability. I've thought of the usual remedies like drugs, alcohol or my own on-line affair. For obvious reasons, I have not acted on any of these options. So, I am asking this forum anonomyously for advice. Please help me take the right course of action.

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