Advice Needed for argument over friends

I need some advice desperately. My husband and I keep having the same argument and I need to know if I have any right to speak up about what I feel like is an insulting disregard for privacy. Some quick backstory. I have been married for 3.5 years and have been living with my husband for a total of just over 6 years. His previous girlfriend cheated on him with a good friend which has made him very untrusting. I have never cheated on him. In the very first month of dating him I was still talking as friends with a guy who I had previously dated but it upset R so I stopped. Now 6 years later I have a long distance friend, who is a straight non married guy, though he is pretty much always in relationships. I have never hidden this friend from my husband and I feel no attraction or desire for this individual. He and I used to talk to each other daily but my husband was insanely jealous and would go through my phone for texts and obsessively check our cell phone records to see who i was talking to. I stopped talking to him about 6 months ago. This past month we reconnected because he wanted to show my a new tattoo and knows that I love tattoos as I am a designer and artist and previously helped put his idea on paper to take to a tattoo artist. Since then we've talked very sporadically. I didn't tell me husband about it. Partially I didn't think it was a big deal and partially because I didn't want the argument. Now this morning while he was at work he checked out my cell phone record called me 6 times while I was sleeping before work so he could yell at me and call me mean/vulgar names. I feel he invaded my privacy. I don't have many friends, none of my friends liked my husband when we were first dating and he kind of chased them all away. I feel I should be allowed to have a friend who is hundreds of miles away that I can just talk to about common interests and normal chit chat without feeling like I'm a cheater. Am I out of line? Should I be able to bring up him going through cell phone records, insisting on having passwords, checking through my text messages and pictures on my computer and tell him I don't like it? Am I being oversensitive? I want desperately to be a good wife. I love him and I devote all my time and energy away from work to him. I just want a friend to talk to. Please help me I don't know what to do.

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