What to do?Try to get husband out of the house, or let him and his friends hang out

Okay backstory...My husband is an alcoholic..going on i guess 10 years now. It has really gotten bad. Only a few months ago he would at least leave the house, now It is rarity. (we own our own business with people that run it - so he is "free" from most responsibility. A few months back he started partying harder, ran into a old "friend" popped or snorted a pill....ended up passed out and purple...would have died if I had not found him. He has been in the hospital (from passing out or panic) a total of about 5-6 times. (in 6 months) He prefers cocaine. but has snorted other drugs not sure what else. He now has new "friend" who for goodness sake smokes crack. I honestly believe that he is not into it though. So today. I come home, the door to our house wide open, no one at home....with a cleaver, a lighter, strips of foil, one was obviously burned and still had a whitish/clear dried fluid on it all in our downstairs bathroom near the door(his friend had been over"). Although I am empty inside because we do not have children (I am 37), it is a blessing not to have that be a component in this mess. So today ...as always I call him (surprisingly) he answers and I yell at him for what I found in our bathroom with the door open. I wished he wouldn't come home and I no longer want to be a part of it s in i want to find a new place to live. ( I mean I am not a part of it but I don't want to deal with it) later on he texted me to stop being judgmental.In addition to me judging him I guess I judge his friend..(the crackhead) this friend had to apologize to me because the night before his alcoholic wife tried to..no succeeded in laying half on top of my drunk husband as if either of them were sober enough to do anything. SO ?Am I supposed to accept that and not care? SCREW that. drunk or not - she needs to stay the hell away. (If she were pretty - I would be mad *and* jealous, but I am just mad - it is unacceptable. drunk or not drunk. We had gotten in a big fight just the day before (5th time I have packed a bag). but I don't want to leave - I want our life back.damn it! He ended up inviting his friend and his alcoholic wife (and 2 kids around 12 - 14 sad) over for the entire day (even though i had a mental breakdown/ depression outburst) . (I avoided the situation- luckily we have a 2 story). I don't know what to do. What is the smart thing to do. (when he is mostly sober in the am) He tells me to just be nice when he is out - that is what a good wife would do. (as in wait to yell at him when he gets home) EAsy for him to say. Now that it is a weekday, I am seriously considering looking for another place to stay. I Love my husband, but I am ( I guess I am coldhearted) not interested in 1. dealing with this crap. and 2. not interested in watching him kill himself and make a complete ass out of himself. The problem is he is a danger to himself - day before yesterday he almost got in a fight but the guy just pushed him and he fell and hurt his tailbone. Another time he fell and got a concussion..yesterday he fell and busted his lip, then proceeds to joke that I hit him. not funny. Oh, by the way he has spent over $60,000 on friends, partying, strip clubs, bars, casinos, drugs, hotels, etc over the last 6/7 months. Yeah, that is right 60,000. I suppose we had it or could swing it, but I sure as heck would have wanted to spend it on something else! (preferably our other debt). (out of curiosity, If i were to file for divorce...would the courts take into consideration "his" expenditures and not make me pay for half? I am tired of losing sleep over him when he is gone. and I am doubly tired of losing sleep when he and his "friends" are over. What do you think? Has anyone been in the same situation.

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