I'm moving out in 6 days- H in total denial?

I knew this would be a weird situation, but this is even weirder that I expected. A few weeks ago I had a talk with my husband of almost 2 years. He hasn't worked for a year, nor seriously tried to get a job, nor prepared for his unemployment checks to run out. Much more kvetching about this can be found here: http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general...work-ever.html He is a passive-aggressive still playing out issues with his parents/childhood- only with me. He disses me in public and spends an inordinate amount of time attempting to get validation from other women- both online and off. When I need him, he's nowhere to be found (example: when my car broke down late at night on the interstate- I called him right before my cell died and told him where I was. When I finally made it home- thanks to a stranger who stopped, let me use his phone and sat on the side of the road with me for AN HOUR waiting for the tow truck, my H was fast asleep in bed). No matter what I ask of him, it's always too much. But he expects help from me. I quickly fell into the Mom role once I moved in. When I've tried to discuss our plans for the future he refuses (his reasoning "but I don't know what's going to happen in the future") or our relationship he won't participate. I told him what needed to change for me. It was not the first time I tried to talk to him about these issues, but I've never been able to get anywhere. He says I'm attacking him, and that he has no problems with the marriage. I said we needed couples and ideally individual counseling to have a chance at working things out. He immediately refused, and said he would never change, and would never go to a therapist, so it would be pointless to drag it out. I said I felt I had no choice but to move out. So we've been living in the house together for a few weeks. First he stayed out until at least 3 am, or all night, most every night. Now he's being overly loving and affectionate- hugging me, stroking my hair, and basically acting like everything is normal. In a way he seems mournful that I'm moving out (though I wonder if he really believes it even with boxes all over the house), but he has never once asked me to stay. I found an apartment and if all goes well, am planning to move in 6 days. He has no job and no money coming in, and will have no internet service once I leave, but he does not seem particularly worried about that. He watches TV, types on Facebook and goes to his play rehearsals. I suppose I'm looking for someone impartial to reassure me I'm doing the right thing.

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