I don't know what else to do!!!!!!!!

Ok so my wife and I are in a bad spot. Here's the lowdown We've been married six and half years. We grew up together as friends. We didn't really date. We fell in love and got married. My wife is not an emotionally availabe person. Not into real intimacy. She's not into having sex a lot and since having our first child no real sex life. Now in her defense she had damage from our first child and it causes a lot of pain during intercourse. So therefore no intercouse for her and I. It's had its toil on me because I am the complete opposite. I need physical intimacy and sex. So over time I found other ways to deal with it I.e porn. The other thing is I was handling the finances and did a terrible job at it and screwed them up badly. I had lied to to her about how the finances were or about being ok about not having sex. So about April last year I started reading No more mr. Nice Guy and it changed me so I did exercise 22 and came clean about everything. She was devestated which I fully understand why. And I take full responsibilities f or my actions as a husband. I'm not shifting any blame or justifying any actions. I was wrong dead wrong. And I understand that the result would be a fractured marraige for a long time. I get that and honestly I'm ok with that. Here's the issue. I've been trying to understand what she needs from me at this moment almost a year later and I'm failing. Everything I'm doing in the name giving her what she needs is the complete opposite of what she really needs. Like today I told her to have a great day. And she went off on me for telling her to have a great day. That what she needed for me to do was to not tell her to have a great day but to see that she's not ok. Now internally its extremely obvious that she's not ok. She's short and rude and almost treats me with a certain disdain like a second class citizen. And you know what though I would be willing to deal with that if I know what to do to make her ok. Part of me feels like there's only but so much I can do. But I could be doing the wrong stuff so I'm asking for help Thanks.

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