Constantly Fighting When Son Away

Hello everyone. I'd sincerely appreciate any insight. My husband and I rarely spend more than a weekend away from our 8 year old son. Our son is currently away visiting relatives in a different state for the second time in the past 2-3 years; he's been away for less than a week and isn't scheduled to return for another 2 weeks. You'd think that we'd take full advantage of this alone time to rekindle our love life, but no.... as always we ended up arguing and not speaking to each other. We were young when we unexpectedly found out we were pregnant and both wanted to provide a home with both parents for our son. I often ask myself and my husband if we're only together to provide a family for my son or if we really want to be with each other. He always responds by saying that he loves me and wouldn't be with me if he really didn't want to. However, we had a heart to heart some time ago and BOTH admitted that more than likely we wouldn't be together if it weren't for our son. Neither of us wanted a child so early in our lives and much less wanted to be committed to someone. I'm a firm believer that actions speak louder than words and his actions aren't what I'd expect or want from a loving husband. We're less than 30 years old and I'm displeased (and have been for quite some time) with our sex life. Maybe I'm wrong, but I always thought that a husband should find his wife irresistible, should compliment her, and continue to do small romantic things. We separated several times before marrying and each time he'd do those small romantic things to court me. I'm tired of letting him know these things are important to me and that I'd like him to continue to do them instead of only doing them when he feels he's losing me. My husband cuddles with my son and is very attentive with my son, but finds it hard to cuddle and be attentive with me. I don't know if I'm asking for too much from him and our marriage or if I should just admit that we are truly together solely for my son's sake. Please someone provide me with some insight. Any and all responses will be greatly appreciated. If you want more background information, I'd be happy to provide it. Thank you. Kris

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