I hope I don't offend anyone by being indelicate: if I do, I apologize.
My partner and I have always had an amazing sexual relationship. Even though he is a bigger guy I find him very attractive. I've gained and lost weight at points during the last 5 years and it hasn't made a difference in how he's treated me or how much he is attracted to me so I feel hypocritical for even posting this, but he's reached a weight where sex is uncomfortable for me.
This isn't an attraction/desire/sex drive issue, just mechanics. I can't just tell him the reason I don't want to have sex is because my knees don't touch the bed anymore - he's a very sensitive individual and takes things to heart - I know if I tell him outright that there is a problem he will immediately feel that he is "underperforming" or that I don't find him attractive anymore.
On the other hand there are only so many times I can ask him to go for a walk with me before I sound like a broken record. He has sciatica and has been dealing with a flair-up for a few months so his options for exercise are limited and he is in pain much of the time - its a catch 22 because being more active will (long-term) help with the sciatica, but the more active he is the more pain he's in right now.
I've reached a point where I'm at a loss as to how to help with out picking a fight or causing an emotional wound. Is there anyone out there who can commiserate? who's had a similar issue? or has any experience addressing issues like this?
My partner and I have always had an amazing sexual relationship. Even though he is a bigger guy I find him very attractive. I've gained and lost weight at points during the last 5 years and it hasn't made a difference in how he's treated me or how much he is attracted to me so I feel hypocritical for even posting this, but he's reached a weight where sex is uncomfortable for me.
This isn't an attraction/desire/sex drive issue, just mechanics. I can't just tell him the reason I don't want to have sex is because my knees don't touch the bed anymore - he's a very sensitive individual and takes things to heart - I know if I tell him outright that there is a problem he will immediately feel that he is "underperforming" or that I don't find him attractive anymore.
On the other hand there are only so many times I can ask him to go for a walk with me before I sound like a broken record. He has sciatica and has been dealing with a flair-up for a few months so his options for exercise are limited and he is in pain much of the time - its a catch 22 because being more active will (long-term) help with the sciatica, but the more active he is the more pain he's in right now.
I've reached a point where I'm at a loss as to how to help with out picking a fight or causing an emotional wound. Is there anyone out there who can commiserate? who's had a similar issue? or has any experience addressing issues like this?
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