Hi guys, i will try to make this short.
Ill start by saying my husband is a good man. Hard worker, good with his family and mine and wouldnt do anything to hurt me on purpose. Weve been married 3 years.
Ever since ever, ive noticed that he was never a gentleman with me. By gentleman i mean chilvarous. I tried to pay it no mind. Ive had male friends open doors for me, walk on the road side of the sidewalk for me etc. it makes me feel good.
Its been a fee times already that we are with our group of friends and in opportunities where for example i arrive (late due to work) and theyve all eaten already, including my hubby, i grab a plate and theres nowhere to sit so i just eat standing up...one of our guy friends gives me his seat and calls out my husband for it jokingly. My husband always says "i was about to do it" but i know he wasnt because a good minutes passes by before someone else does it. Or if theres only one seat available somewhere, he takes it. All those times, especially when they call him out on it makes me feel embarrased. Another time i asked him as a favor if he could scort me to the bathroom in a bar i wasnt familiar with, he refused bcuse he didnt want to get up.
Everytime i see our friends being courtious with their women it makes me feel sad and kind of like he doesnt care about me being treated with such attention. Ive talked to him about it and he says he doesnt notice that hes being sort of "rude" to me or that he forgets to do those things. Ive asked him if he could be a lil more gentleman with me and he agreed.
It didnt last very long though :( he still wont even open car doors for me unless another couple eho happens to do it is with us.
I know its not a big deal, but it makes me feel so...unimportant. Like i dont deserve that treatment. And this one last time made me feel incredibly hurt for some reason,and he doesnt care that im upset about it.
I know i married him knowing this but, shouldnt a man want to treat the woman he loves with those types of gestures?
I just feel so sad when i see other men do it because it looks like theyre so in love with their partners and caring.
If theres any men here, what could a woman do to inspire you to start doing those things for her?
Ill start by saying my husband is a good man. Hard worker, good with his family and mine and wouldnt do anything to hurt me on purpose. Weve been married 3 years.
Ever since ever, ive noticed that he was never a gentleman with me. By gentleman i mean chilvarous. I tried to pay it no mind. Ive had male friends open doors for me, walk on the road side of the sidewalk for me etc. it makes me feel good.
Its been a fee times already that we are with our group of friends and in opportunities where for example i arrive (late due to work) and theyve all eaten already, including my hubby, i grab a plate and theres nowhere to sit so i just eat standing up...one of our guy friends gives me his seat and calls out my husband for it jokingly. My husband always says "i was about to do it" but i know he wasnt because a good minutes passes by before someone else does it. Or if theres only one seat available somewhere, he takes it. All those times, especially when they call him out on it makes me feel embarrased. Another time i asked him as a favor if he could scort me to the bathroom in a bar i wasnt familiar with, he refused bcuse he didnt want to get up.
Everytime i see our friends being courtious with their women it makes me feel sad and kind of like he doesnt care about me being treated with such attention. Ive talked to him about it and he says he doesnt notice that hes being sort of "rude" to me or that he forgets to do those things. Ive asked him if he could be a lil more gentleman with me and he agreed.
It didnt last very long though :( he still wont even open car doors for me unless another couple eho happens to do it is with us.
I know its not a big deal, but it makes me feel so...unimportant. Like i dont deserve that treatment. And this one last time made me feel incredibly hurt for some reason,and he doesnt care that im upset about it.
I know i married him knowing this but, shouldnt a man want to treat the woman he loves with those types of gestures?
I just feel so sad when i see other men do it because it looks like theyre so in love with their partners and caring.
If theres any men here, what could a woman do to inspire you to start doing those things for her?
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