Good evening all
I think the lesson taught to (mostly) young women of "don't do anything sexual you don't want to do) is terrible advice, and sets them up for problems in marriage later.
People do lots of things in their lives that they don't enjoy. There is nothing wrong with doing something sexual for your partner that you don't particularly enjoy IF it is part of a healthy, loving and mutual relationship.
I know that this is taught to help women avoid real abuse, but I think it has be expanded to the point where one poster said "I don't get any pleasure out of HJs or BJs, so I don't do them". Not everything sexual needs to be directly for your own pleasure, it is great to sometimes just please your partner as long as they do the same for you.
It is unbalanced sexual relationships, or the trading of sex for other things that needs to be avoided, not sexual favors done out of love.
:soapbox:
I think the lesson taught to (mostly) young women of "don't do anything sexual you don't want to do) is terrible advice, and sets them up for problems in marriage later.
People do lots of things in their lives that they don't enjoy. There is nothing wrong with doing something sexual for your partner that you don't particularly enjoy IF it is part of a healthy, loving and mutual relationship.
I know that this is taught to help women avoid real abuse, but I think it has be expanded to the point where one poster said "I don't get any pleasure out of HJs or BJs, so I don't do them". Not everything sexual needs to be directly for your own pleasure, it is great to sometimes just please your partner as long as they do the same for you.
It is unbalanced sexual relationships, or the trading of sex for other things that needs to be avoided, not sexual favors done out of love.
:soapbox:
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