This is more to let out, rather than a solution or attention seeking.
TL : DR 20, single for 3.5 years, 6/8 friends have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Moving into a flat with 4 other girls 3/4 have boyfriends, friend of 7 years having a baby with boyfriend, feeling lonely and lacking affection, believe I'm a nice person, but overweight, don't know where I'm going wrong. Feel like I could live alone for the majority of life.
I'm 20, almost 21 years old and have been single for 3 and a half years, yes I realise some of you have not had your first kiss yet etc.
This has never really bothered me until lately, after my ex "forgot" he was engaged to another girl I've not dated since. Sure I've been on a handful of unsuccessful dates but it's not really lead to anything.
Like most students I went off to university at 18, I ended up moving back home come November time of that year, I ended up working in March the following year in a warehouse, starting at 6am.
I went back to college last September and did a course there which I have completed, I am now off to university on Sunday.
However the main purpose of this post is that I've been single for 3 and a half years, yes I'm okay looking, yes I'm overweight, however I like to think I'm a nice person and I am relatively friendly.
I don't know if I'm just noticing it more but more and more of my friends seem to be finding boyfriends or having babies.
In my group of friends from college during A-Levels there is 9 of us altogether
A has a boyfriend
V has a boyfriend
E has a boyfriend
E has a boyfriend
D has a girlfriend (boy)
R has a boyfriend (boy)
A is single - Religious
J is single - Religious
Me - single
My longest friend is having a baby with her boyfriend who she met a month before she got pregnant. There is also a few other girls who I knew / knew of from high school having babies with their boyfriends.
I'm about to move into a flat with 4 other girls, 3 of which have boyfriends, so it's not like I can escape at university.
I just don't know where I'm going wrong, the last time I slept with someone was almost a year ago - he said I was gorgeous but probably lying. I get less action (not just sex) than any of my friends in a relationship.
I volunteer and I want to work in research when I graduate to help save peoples lives and hopefully find a miracle drug and have my name remembered in history. I work for my own money and balance it between college and seeing friends.
People will say you're young you've got all the time in the world to find someone but I just want to be "loved" again even if it's only for several months. I've not hugged anyone since last year (the guy I slept with) or had anything affection shown towards me. I don't really have anyone I can just invite over and talk and have a bit of a cuddle with that means something to me, even if it's only for a short while. Just things you can't tell your friends. I'm not going out looking for the "one" or constantly searching for love, in fact I'm doing the opposite, seeing how much it would cost to live alone and how people cope with living alone for the majority of their lives. I mean if it comes to it I wouldn't mind living alone as long as I had some animals.
Not even my dad mentions me ever living with someone or having kids or anything like that. I guess I'm just feeling lonely right now.
Put the internet to work for you.
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