Disclaimer: Obviously there are some men that fit the mold of this just as well, but this thread is specifically about female adultery which while equally immoral and devastating is not identical to male adultery in regards to why it happens or the mindset of the those who commit it, at least in my opinion.
BTW I may ramble a little bit so please cut me some slack.:)
Many have speculated or outright stated that the reason so few female adulteresses ever accept 100% of the blame for their affair/s and always have to throw out that dreaded "but" after every instance of accepting blame is due to their inherent narcissism/selfishness. Which is I believe an understandable conclusion, but I wonder if it is something more complex than that. Women, or at least women in the west are frequently placed on moral pedestals in our society. They are thought to be the "better half", they're the ones who are typically expected to place the good of their families over their own wants/needs/desires.
Women are generally seen as more sensitive to the feelings of others and are believed to be the more nurturing of the species.
Children are just assumed by society and often the courts to be better off with their mothers as opposed to their fathers regardless of the specific circumstances of the individual case.
So when a woman fails at putting her family above herself and gives in to her own carnal nature at the expense of the very people whom she is expected to care for and protect, I wonder if the guilt they feel is so overwhelming that they simply cannot bring themselves to face the full reality of what they've done.
It would mean admitting to themselves that they have permanently lost the "moral high ground" they were born into by virtue of gender.
It's almost like they have to hold on to their justifications as if its their only proof of their "innocence". They cling to it like a lifeline to the shore. It reminds me of an abusive parent arguing with their grown children that they never really abused them when they were younger or better yet a grown child on their therapist's couch blaming their parent for all of their own flaws. It's not ignorance so much as denial, even so far as to deny the existence of their own free will. Its self preservation, to take absolute responsibility for their greatest moral failing in life is too overwhelming for them to bear so they fall back into the role of "helpless victim" where they feel most comfortable.
Your thoughts or opposing views are more than welcome and I won't even threaten to report you to the mods.;)
BTW I may ramble a little bit so please cut me some slack.:)
Many have speculated or outright stated that the reason so few female adulteresses ever accept 100% of the blame for their affair/s and always have to throw out that dreaded "but" after every instance of accepting blame is due to their inherent narcissism/selfishness. Which is I believe an understandable conclusion, but I wonder if it is something more complex than that. Women, or at least women in the west are frequently placed on moral pedestals in our society. They are thought to be the "better half", they're the ones who are typically expected to place the good of their families over their own wants/needs/desires.
Women are generally seen as more sensitive to the feelings of others and are believed to be the more nurturing of the species.
Children are just assumed by society and often the courts to be better off with their mothers as opposed to their fathers regardless of the specific circumstances of the individual case.
So when a woman fails at putting her family above herself and gives in to her own carnal nature at the expense of the very people whom she is expected to care for and protect, I wonder if the guilt they feel is so overwhelming that they simply cannot bring themselves to face the full reality of what they've done.
It would mean admitting to themselves that they have permanently lost the "moral high ground" they were born into by virtue of gender.
It's almost like they have to hold on to their justifications as if its their only proof of their "innocence". They cling to it like a lifeline to the shore. It reminds me of an abusive parent arguing with their grown children that they never really abused them when they were younger or better yet a grown child on their therapist's couch blaming their parent for all of their own flaws. It's not ignorance so much as denial, even so far as to deny the existence of their own free will. Its self preservation, to take absolute responsibility for their greatest moral failing in life is too overwhelming for them to bear so they fall back into the role of "helpless victim" where they feel most comfortable.
Your thoughts or opposing views are more than welcome and I won't even threaten to report you to the mods.;)
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