As most know, my 12 year relationship, 4 year marriage ended when my wife divorced me. We've had our hearing and it's all over now and becomes official in just a few months.
I'm proud of the work I've done for myself and continue to do. I'm discouraged by my dating prospects however and feel stuck.
I'm a Christian. I belong to two dating sites. One I don't take seriously because the women there appear to be delusional with unrealistic expectations, not to mention their entitlement mentality and over inflated sense of value. Don't all chubby divorced mom's deserve a millionaire with six pack abs, a BMW and a passport?
The other site is a Christian site. I've met a very nice woman (Smiles) who seems interested in me. Smiles is attractive, has a good career, and claims to be active in her church. What's the problem? Me! Smiles is a widow with 2 young kids and she lives in the city me and Scrooge used to live in.
I'm getting uneasy feelings about this. I tried being a step father before with Scrooge and it didn't work out. I don't want to lose out on Smiles, and I know her circumstances are different, but I'm worried about investing time with a woman with children and she turns out to be unsupportive and has no clue about building a blended family like Scrooge.
My brain knows she's not Scrooge, but my spiderman senses are sounding off. What does this mean? Too soon? Too similar? Keep working on me and my goals? Should I wait?
We email all the time. I know Smiles is waiting for me to ask her out. I'm conflicted and a little afraid. I feel like I'm 15 again. I'm also attracted to a lady at my gym (Sarah Palin) and one of my classmates (Book Worm) in grad school. It's been from one extreme to another too quick. I'm overwhelmed.
Any thoughts? My gut is saying slow down. Is this normal?
Thanks
I'm proud of the work I've done for myself and continue to do. I'm discouraged by my dating prospects however and feel stuck.
I'm a Christian. I belong to two dating sites. One I don't take seriously because the women there appear to be delusional with unrealistic expectations, not to mention their entitlement mentality and over inflated sense of value. Don't all chubby divorced mom's deserve a millionaire with six pack abs, a BMW and a passport?
The other site is a Christian site. I've met a very nice woman (Smiles) who seems interested in me. Smiles is attractive, has a good career, and claims to be active in her church. What's the problem? Me! Smiles is a widow with 2 young kids and she lives in the city me and Scrooge used to live in.
I'm getting uneasy feelings about this. I tried being a step father before with Scrooge and it didn't work out. I don't want to lose out on Smiles, and I know her circumstances are different, but I'm worried about investing time with a woman with children and she turns out to be unsupportive and has no clue about building a blended family like Scrooge.
My brain knows she's not Scrooge, but my spiderman senses are sounding off. What does this mean? Too soon? Too similar? Keep working on me and my goals? Should I wait?
We email all the time. I know Smiles is waiting for me to ask her out. I'm conflicted and a little afraid. I feel like I'm 15 again. I'm also attracted to a lady at my gym (Sarah Palin) and one of my classmates (Book Worm) in grad school. It's been from one extreme to another too quick. I'm overwhelmed.
Any thoughts? My gut is saying slow down. Is this normal?
Thanks
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