Hello,
I'm struggling with making the divorce decision. I've been married 5 years and have no children with a woman who has severe depression and anxiety issues. On her good days, she's wonderful, kind and thoughtful. On her bad days she is emotionally abusive to me. She claims that our marital problems are because of me - not her. She won't take any criticism from anyone. She is right and I'm wrong, the therapists are wrong, etc. She won't leave the marriage. I can't take the stress she's putting on me any longer. I'm emotionally and physically burned out. My physical health is suffering due to our relationship.
I admit I have not been perfect in this relationship. I struggle with some anxiety issues myself. I am working on these problems. My anxiety has definitely gotten worse since we married.
I'm ready to break. I'm not sure what to do. Part of me feels sorry for her and feels terrible for leaving our marriage, part of me wants to run away as quickly as I can. I fear leaving because I don't want to hurt her, because I do care about her. I also fear leaving because of the loneliness and pain that will follow the divorce. I do not have a big circle of friends, and am not very social.
Any words of advice? My BFF and parents are pressuring me to get out and get out now.
Thoughts?
I'm struggling with making the divorce decision. I've been married 5 years and have no children with a woman who has severe depression and anxiety issues. On her good days, she's wonderful, kind and thoughtful. On her bad days she is emotionally abusive to me. She claims that our marital problems are because of me - not her. She won't take any criticism from anyone. She is right and I'm wrong, the therapists are wrong, etc. She won't leave the marriage. I can't take the stress she's putting on me any longer. I'm emotionally and physically burned out. My physical health is suffering due to our relationship.
I admit I have not been perfect in this relationship. I struggle with some anxiety issues myself. I am working on these problems. My anxiety has definitely gotten worse since we married.
I'm ready to break. I'm not sure what to do. Part of me feels sorry for her and feels terrible for leaving our marriage, part of me wants to run away as quickly as I can. I fear leaving because I don't want to hurt her, because I do care about her. I also fear leaving because of the loneliness and pain that will follow the divorce. I do not have a big circle of friends, and am not very social.
Any words of advice? My BFF and parents are pressuring me to get out and get out now.
Thoughts?
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