Hi guys. I'll try to keep the back story brief and to the point:
Occasionally, I work a residential job at the weekend. A few weeks ago, I went along to this job, and I met a guy there who was also working. It was instant attraction, and after a day of flirting through work, we ended up messing around in the evening. He made it clear from the start that he wasn't interested in continuing anything after the weekend, and that was fine by me. Regardless, we agreed to swap numbers and keep in touch.
A couple of days after the weekend, he mentioned via text that a friend of his had fairly recently moved to my town and didn't know many people around. He asked if it was okay to pass my number on, and I said sure. This might be me being naive but - especially given the circumstances - I did not think anything of it, so a few days after that I got a text from this other guy and agreed to meet up at my local.
Well I'm now 95% sure that this guy came along to meet me for what he assumed was a date. It was pleasant but I really wasn't interested in a date, and now I feel awful as though I've somehow given the wrong impression. He's text me twice since then and I haven't responded to either because I just don't know what to say or how to say it and I certainly don't want to give the wrong impression (again). However I don't want to just ignore him because he doesn't deserve that.
I've never dated before (partly because I hate awkward situations like this) but if I did, I don't think I'd have any problems in telling someone "Thanks but I'm not interested in another date". However, because I met up with this guy completely innocently and never agreed to a 'date' I don't know how to deal with this situation. I need help! Thanks.
Occasionally, I work a residential job at the weekend. A few weeks ago, I went along to this job, and I met a guy there who was also working. It was instant attraction, and after a day of flirting through work, we ended up messing around in the evening. He made it clear from the start that he wasn't interested in continuing anything after the weekend, and that was fine by me. Regardless, we agreed to swap numbers and keep in touch.
A couple of days after the weekend, he mentioned via text that a friend of his had fairly recently moved to my town and didn't know many people around. He asked if it was okay to pass my number on, and I said sure. This might be me being naive but - especially given the circumstances - I did not think anything of it, so a few days after that I got a text from this other guy and agreed to meet up at my local.
Well I'm now 95% sure that this guy came along to meet me for what he assumed was a date. It was pleasant but I really wasn't interested in a date, and now I feel awful as though I've somehow given the wrong impression. He's text me twice since then and I haven't responded to either because I just don't know what to say or how to say it and I certainly don't want to give the wrong impression (again). However I don't want to just ignore him because he doesn't deserve that.
I've never dated before (partly because I hate awkward situations like this) but if I did, I don't think I'd have any problems in telling someone "Thanks but I'm not interested in another date". However, because I met up with this guy completely innocently and never agreed to a 'date' I don't know how to deal with this situation. I need help! Thanks.
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