Got dumped on Valentine's Day by my girlfriend after 3 1/2 years (girl/girl). Still coming to terms with it all...
She says that she's been planning on doing it for months, and that it's best for both of us. She says I've been really cold recently and need to realise what I've done wrong in our relationship, and that if we spend time apart we'll realise what we miss and love about each other again and then we can start over. She wants us to stay friends and still spend time together etc, and then eventually get back together. She says she genuinely wants to spend her life with me, but right now she can't be with me.
She's severely depressed, and I have to admit it's been really damn difficult keeping a happy relationship with her, because the depression drags us both down at times. I've tried really hard to be there for her, but I guess her depression has got to me and I'm not exactly the happiest person to be around at the moment.
Because of that I understand why she's broken up with me, and would be okay with this decision
BUT
there's this new girl on the scene, whom she met over Christmas and got very close to, very quickly. They flirted all the time at school and I suspected something was going on, but gf always denied it. On Valentine's Day they both admitted they had feelings for each other, but new girl said she didn't want anything serious. Either way, my (ex)gf promised the new girl she'd break up with me that night so she wouldn't technically be cheating on me
My ex says that this new girl coming was the tip of the iceberg, and gave her the confidence to break up with me- something she's planning for a few months. I want to believe this, but I feel like she really wants to be with this girl and is BSing me a bit.
So basically my ex is wanting me to work on myself while staying her friend and watching her have a fling with this new girl...it's going to be really upsetting to watch her with someone else and I'm going to be so intensely jealous, and as we all go to the same school I'll see them every day :(
I really do love my ex, we've been through so much together and I really feel like we could spend the rest of our lives together... I just don't know what to do right now :S
She says that she's been planning on doing it for months, and that it's best for both of us. She says I've been really cold recently and need to realise what I've done wrong in our relationship, and that if we spend time apart we'll realise what we miss and love about each other again and then we can start over. She wants us to stay friends and still spend time together etc, and then eventually get back together. She says she genuinely wants to spend her life with me, but right now she can't be with me.
She's severely depressed, and I have to admit it's been really damn difficult keeping a happy relationship with her, because the depression drags us both down at times. I've tried really hard to be there for her, but I guess her depression has got to me and I'm not exactly the happiest person to be around at the moment.
Because of that I understand why she's broken up with me, and would be okay with this decision
BUT
there's this new girl on the scene, whom she met over Christmas and got very close to, very quickly. They flirted all the time at school and I suspected something was going on, but gf always denied it. On Valentine's Day they both admitted they had feelings for each other, but new girl said she didn't want anything serious. Either way, my (ex)gf promised the new girl she'd break up with me that night so she wouldn't technically be cheating on me
My ex says that this new girl coming was the tip of the iceberg, and gave her the confidence to break up with me- something she's planning for a few months. I want to believe this, but I feel like she really wants to be with this girl and is BSing me a bit.
So basically my ex is wanting me to work on myself while staying her friend and watching her have a fling with this new girl...it's going to be really upsetting to watch her with someone else and I'm going to be so intensely jealous, and as we all go to the same school I'll see them every day :(
I really do love my ex, we've been through so much together and I really feel like we could spend the rest of our lives together... I just don't know what to do right now :S
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