hello,
We've been married for about 5 months. Been together for 5 years prior. Lately she has been increasingly irrational.
I am enrolled in school and working as much as I am able, and bless her heart she is carrying us financially till I am finished with school.
She says one thing and the next day contradicts herself. She is stuck on getting a dog. Currently it couldn't be a worse time for it. As there is no one to take care of the pet during the day. I am also not over our last attempt with a dog. (the details drive me furious with the insanity that surrounds that failure)
We were texting earlier today. she text me
" I'm going to look at a dog today"
I responded
" just so long is look is all you do"
she then responded
" who are you to tell me what to do?"
i don't see it as I was telling her what to do. As I feel this is a big deal and we need to be on the same page.
The other day she also accused me of not talking with her about big things.
Example,
Me continuing my education for a 2nd year (which ask anyone given the finer details it makes financial sense), or me trying to hustle on the side to try to make some extra money. (nothing illicit) Both things I remember vividly speaking with her and inquiring to her opinion.
Her thoughts in both examples were passive. And, as being these two items were of a time sensitive nature I had to get going on them.
Now she is the definition of resentment. I know she is carrying a large burden. I praise her hourly for it. I try to do the little things for her to show appreciation. Yet it does not seem to be enough. She says she feels lonely. I take the active roll and inquire daily how she is feeling, if she needs/wants any thing. And, I get the same passive response every time. i am doing everything I feel I can do and it is not enough.
She also, keeps talking about wanting to have a child. With this latest development I'm not exactly running to get that going. as I'm sure you could understand.
I do not know how to continue. HELP! Any reassurance, or suggestions of how to continue would be of great value.
We've been married for about 5 months. Been together for 5 years prior. Lately she has been increasingly irrational.
I am enrolled in school and working as much as I am able, and bless her heart she is carrying us financially till I am finished with school.
She says one thing and the next day contradicts herself. She is stuck on getting a dog. Currently it couldn't be a worse time for it. As there is no one to take care of the pet during the day. I am also not over our last attempt with a dog. (the details drive me furious with the insanity that surrounds that failure)
We were texting earlier today. she text me
" I'm going to look at a dog today"
I responded
" just so long is look is all you do"
she then responded
" who are you to tell me what to do?"
i don't see it as I was telling her what to do. As I feel this is a big deal and we need to be on the same page.
The other day she also accused me of not talking with her about big things.
Example,
Me continuing my education for a 2nd year (which ask anyone given the finer details it makes financial sense), or me trying to hustle on the side to try to make some extra money. (nothing illicit) Both things I remember vividly speaking with her and inquiring to her opinion.
Her thoughts in both examples were passive. And, as being these two items were of a time sensitive nature I had to get going on them.
Now she is the definition of resentment. I know she is carrying a large burden. I praise her hourly for it. I try to do the little things for her to show appreciation. Yet it does not seem to be enough. She says she feels lonely. I take the active roll and inquire daily how she is feeling, if she needs/wants any thing. And, I get the same passive response every time. i am doing everything I feel I can do and it is not enough.
She also, keeps talking about wanting to have a child. With this latest development I'm not exactly running to get that going. as I'm sure you could understand.
I do not know how to continue. HELP! Any reassurance, or suggestions of how to continue would be of great value.
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