She is very keen on family life/relations - while I am too, I'm concerned for not only the ceremony but also family life after.
She said she's excited for me becoming a part of her family - that when we're married her family will consider me as much as family as they consider her and I'm equally excited for that.
The thing is I feel ashamed that I don't have any family to join hers.
(My mum died when I was 14, my dad when I was 17 - I don't talk to any of my other family at all).
Also, I'm from the UK, she's from the US so even if I did have family, the chances of them coming here for the ceremony or even to visit is non-existent anyway.
The shame I feel is from the fact that she's excited for me joining her family and by extension I guess she's excited with the thought of my family also joining hers (although I have none) and I can't give her that.
It's not even to do with her expectations; it's the fact that I'll be joining her family with no family of my own - her family will be opening up to me yet I have no family to do the same for them.
I know this might sound pretty insignificant but it's a big thing for both of us and I feel that I'll let her down by not having a family.
Am I being irrational?
I've spoken to her about it briefly and she's been amazing with being understanding and whatnot. The issue isn't with her but more with what I can't give her.
Also, I'm new to the forum so apologies if I've posted in the wrong board.
She said she's excited for me becoming a part of her family - that when we're married her family will consider me as much as family as they consider her and I'm equally excited for that.
The thing is I feel ashamed that I don't have any family to join hers.
(My mum died when I was 14, my dad when I was 17 - I don't talk to any of my other family at all).
Also, I'm from the UK, she's from the US so even if I did have family, the chances of them coming here for the ceremony or even to visit is non-existent anyway.
The shame I feel is from the fact that she's excited for me joining her family and by extension I guess she's excited with the thought of my family also joining hers (although I have none) and I can't give her that.
It's not even to do with her expectations; it's the fact that I'll be joining her family with no family of my own - her family will be opening up to me yet I have no family to do the same for them.
I know this might sound pretty insignificant but it's a big thing for both of us and I feel that I'll let her down by not having a family.
Am I being irrational?
I've spoken to her about it briefly and she's been amazing with being understanding and whatnot. The issue isn't with her but more with what I can't give her.
Also, I'm new to the forum so apologies if I've posted in the wrong board.
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