Situation Driving Me Crazy

Background: So I have recently turned 25 and for a number of reasons, I find myself still a virgin: in high school I did a lot of sport and worked very hard and generally wasn't that popular, in university one of my parents got very ill and died and I would often go home at the weekends to help care for them. However, in the latter years of university and indeed, since leaving university, I have had several chances in which to have sex, I have just always refused as I was not attracted to the girl in question (usually it would just be a girl I had pulled in a nightclub). Anyway, I would say that I am fairly attractive: tall, athletic build etc and I have a fairly good sense of humour once I get to know someone - often I can be a bit quiet/guarded around new people. However, for the last few years I have been starting to get quite depressed about still being a virgin - I have no other male friends who are virgins (in fact I think I probably have very few who have slept with under 5 people). I don't really know about my female friends but I imagine most of them have slept with at least a few people. Anyway, I would always have my birthday and think to myself that by the time my next birthday came round, I would meet a girl that I am attracted to, that is funny and that is a nice person and that would be great. However, as I don't really go out that much (I try to be healthy so don't go out drinking often) and spend most of my "free" time either working or playing sport, I never really meet these women. So I've decided that it may be time to drop this romantic notion of someday meeting the perfect woman and just going ahead and shagging a hot girl to at least get on the scoreboard so to speak. The reason for this is that I am really quite frustrated/upset about it and it is affecting my concentration on other aspects of my life (work etc). The Situation: So this summer I will go abroad on holiday and I was on a forum discussing things to do in the place I will go to. Anyway, I got chatting to this American born Asian girl who will be there at the same time. We have got on very well and I find her fun and certainly very attractive (at least a 9/10). She seems fairly keen as she has sent me some very nice topless photos haha and we have chatted on Skype etc. However, she sent me a message last week saying she was depressed. When I asked for details, it turned out that she had slept with some random guy she had met the day before (she is already in the country I will visit as she is working there). Anyway, she said that I shouldn't be jealous as she didn't enjoy it and felt awkward throughout. However, this really upset me - I thought I'd finally met a girl that I could happily have sex with. Now I can't stop thinking about whether she's a bit of a slut, whether I can trust her, and then I realise that it would be very hard (and indeed, probably not desirable) to find a virgin my age, but the prospect of going down on her or having sex with her when other guys have came in that area beforehand really disgusts me. Perhaps I'm just too old-fashioned for the world we live in haha! The Question: I now find myself really wanting to know how many people she has had sex with. However, there is no way of ascertaining this without her asking me the same question back and I don't think she will like the answer (0) I will have for her haha! Secondly, she has been a bit distant since this incident, does anyone have any advice about how I can keep her interested in me and not to go out ****ing any more guys! She said she needs to value sex more which is a good sign as it means she may well be DTF when I arrive but it's also bad as it makes it sound like she has slept with a lot of people. Basically, I feel like providing she doesn't shag anyone else before I get there (in 1 month) I may well choose to go through with it as I've wasted my entire youth being a virgin and I will probably never have a shot with a girl this hot ever again.

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