No longer want to be a wife

Hi, I no longer want to be a wife! However, my husband is hanging in there because he does not want to lose me. I think he would be ashamed and embarassed if he divorced (this would be his second divorce). We went to counseling and the therapist summed it up in one session that I no longer wanted this marriage. He just does not believe it! He is in total denial and I really want him to see through the issues and be agreeable and make the split mutual. He thinks that I'm in a mid life crisis and this will pass. I turned 50 about five months ago and have been on a fitness kick for over a year. We have no children and he has two from first marriage. I'm not going to talk about his children (now adults) because that really is a separate issue with it's own degree of disappointment, bitterness, jealousy, and resentment on my part. Right now I feel alive and want to be active. We are just no longer compatible! He is content to come home from work, eat dinner, scan the internet on his Ipod and watch TV. I am interested (and I am participating in these activities now) in going to the gym, biking, running, bowling, skating or just hanging out at a bar for a few drinks and play a game of pool. I am not saying he is completely negative toward doing any of these activities except for those activities that require more intense physical activity. But, if I made the suggestion and he accepted, he would only do so to please me. He really would not be happy and just go through the motions and when he was ready to go, it's time to go! In the last year, I have met another man that I enjoy spending more time with then my own husband. We have so much in common and enjoy all same things. We both have a passion for fitness and it shows! We are like equals. We have truly become great friends and at one time my husband would join us but that has now stopped. I stopped inlcuding him because he was just a negative and downer. I want to move on and pursue this other friendship. I'm not looking for another marriage but compability, companionship and friendship - to be free to do the things that make me happy and not feel guilty because I spent too much time having fun! I'm not sure what the future is or who will be sharing it with me, but I'm ready and anxious for the adventure and the pursuit of happiness! It's hard to pack up and leave after 25 years of life with the same person (married 15 yrs). If anyone out there has a similar story, I would love to get your feedback. What I need is support and guidance and not sure where to turn.

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