husband having emotional affair

Hi all! Just needing a place to vent! My husband of 12 years is having an emotional affair with another woman (I'll just call her a woman because I'm sure the words I want to use here aren't allowed. lol!). We'll call her S. Been going on for almost a year now and I'm just about to my breaking point! It's a very long story about how S became involved in our lives, but long story short, she is the girlfriend of one of my husband's childhood friends. We'll call him R. S&R also live in our neighborhood. Then to make matters even worse (for me anyways), my husband hired S to work for him!!!! So in addition to spending all day together, S calls him all the time, they text all the time, my husband buys gifts for her two children & god knows what else!! He used to take her & some of her other girlfriends to dinner - without me - and used to take her to lunch often. After doing a lot of fighting about that, I think some of the going out to eat has st opped, but the communication hasn't. He lies to me about "going to work" after hours & on the weekend but really goes to hang out with S. When I catch him, he says he's there "hanging out" with R. Whatever!!! I know R too and he's more reclusive than S. I've hung out over there before in the beginning when I tried to make friends with S, when she first entered our lives, so I know what goes on over there. Husband is most likely sitting outside drinking with S while she smokes like a freight train while R is inside watching TV or cleaning something. So a little more background, yes, I tried to make friends with S. Hubby and I were already having some marital problems to begin with. I became an open book with her, let her in even though I didn't really trust her to begin with, hoping if she could just understand me then we'd become friends. Well, didn't work. Just backfired. She's so different from me and she just took everything she learned and decided I was "crazy and had issues" and started talking about me behind my back to all our friends. Now, hubby is emotionally involved with S - I could go into so many details, but just trust me here, he is - she hates me and I'm sure is filling his head with so much bull **** and I feel like my marriage is slipping futher and further away faster than I can type. Hubby took his wedding ring off in Feb., has been sleeping in the guest bedroom for just over a month now, doesn't speak to me at all and avoids me at all costs. This is no way to live and it's killing me. Thank god we have no kids! I've tried talking to him till I'm blue in the face, but he just won't communicate. Any advice on getting through to him? I want my marriage to work. I still love him and he says he still loves me. Why oh why then is he still pulling away from me?!

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