Hello TAM, It's been a long time! Over the last 6 months things have been great. I met a woman (4 years my junior, instead of 15+ haha) and we have a healthy and fun relationship.
As for my EX, things have been very congenial between the two of us. However, in 2 days I have a feeling that's gonna change.
We have our first review coming up since our divorce back in 2012 and I'm not sure what to expect. She would be on the phone for this review since she leaves in Minnesota while the kids and I are still in Houston. I'll be at the OAG office discussing child support and insurance amounts.
There's a couple of things I want changed and I feel they are reasonable:
1. Child support is finally set to the state standard. She low-balled me during mediation and I fought with her to bring it up, but ultimately it was never at the state standard at mediation.Plus, she just started a new job at the time so the amount she was/is sending me is much lower than what the state recommends. I'm estimating she's paying $250-300 dollars a month less than the standard now. And since my mortgage has increased due to local property taxes, etc by an extra $200+ a month and kids who are about to enter their teen years, I feel it's best to ask now.
2. Summer visitations. She requested 60 days in the summer for the decree which I agreed to since she lived so far away. Turns out that's practically the kids' entire summer vacation and she just bought a home so she has no intentions on coming back to live close to the kids. I would like it reset to the state's standard of 42 days so I can spend some vacation time with my kids.
That's it for changes. Is this unreasonable? I feel it's fair to tell her before the review, but now I'm not so sure. Do I wait till the review to tell her my intentions, or tell her the day before?
Either way she'll be angry and I'd prefer to say or explain it in a way so she could understand why and not be so pissed. But I know better. So any suggestions on how to handle a review?
As for my EX, things have been very congenial between the two of us. However, in 2 days I have a feeling that's gonna change.
We have our first review coming up since our divorce back in 2012 and I'm not sure what to expect. She would be on the phone for this review since she leaves in Minnesota while the kids and I are still in Houston. I'll be at the OAG office discussing child support and insurance amounts.
There's a couple of things I want changed and I feel they are reasonable:
1. Child support is finally set to the state standard. She low-balled me during mediation and I fought with her to bring it up, but ultimately it was never at the state standard at mediation.Plus, she just started a new job at the time so the amount she was/is sending me is much lower than what the state recommends. I'm estimating she's paying $250-300 dollars a month less than the standard now. And since my mortgage has increased due to local property taxes, etc by an extra $200+ a month and kids who are about to enter their teen years, I feel it's best to ask now.
2. Summer visitations. She requested 60 days in the summer for the decree which I agreed to since she lived so far away. Turns out that's practically the kids' entire summer vacation and she just bought a home so she has no intentions on coming back to live close to the kids. I would like it reset to the state's standard of 42 days so I can spend some vacation time with my kids.
That's it for changes. Is this unreasonable? I feel it's fair to tell her before the review, but now I'm not so sure. Do I wait till the review to tell her my intentions, or tell her the day before?
Either way she'll be angry and I'd prefer to say or explain it in a way so she could understand why and not be so pissed. But I know better. So any suggestions on how to handle a review?
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