A year ago during MC, my wife revealed that her affair with her therapist lasted twice as long as she had previously led me to believe. Instead of 3 years, it had lasted 6 years before she said she ended it.
Over the past year I have really struggled with this revelation and it's implications (was our marriage a sham? did she not really love me? Did she stay with me for home comforts and rely on him for emotional comfort? How much can I really trust what she says to me?)
We have been in limbo for about 15 years and since her latest revelation, I have thought about doing a trial separation, since I am having trouble dealing with this issue. My reason is to distance myself so that perhaps I can gain some kind of perspective on what I want and need for myself going forward. What do you all think? Would a separation be helpful or not?
Over the past year I have really struggled with this revelation and it's implications (was our marriage a sham? did she not really love me? Did she stay with me for home comforts and rely on him for emotional comfort? How much can I really trust what she says to me?)
We have been in limbo for about 15 years and since her latest revelation, I have thought about doing a trial separation, since I am having trouble dealing with this issue. My reason is to distance myself so that perhaps I can gain some kind of perspective on what I want and need for myself going forward. What do you all think? Would a separation be helpful or not?
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