:mad:I have had another thread that list some ongoing issues, some of which are improving and others a sort of stalemate. http://ift.tt/1z47fKz
I was wondering why the drinking had increased and sex had come to a screeching halt, and it centred around my wife's last trip home to visit her parents (I didn't go by the way as I was working on a business trip).
I have it on good authority, that despite my wife being a tad distrustful of her mother, my wife may have discussed some of our issues with her. The MIL is probably one of the most narcissistic and self centred person you could meet, we have never really got on that well, and over the years her comments have often been targeted when she has an audience and when myself or my wife least wanted to kick off and argument (i.e family gatherings, birthday parties etc).
Anyway, my point I have learnt that on her last visit home something was discussed to the point where her mother had suggested my wife "go off and have an affair" :scratchhead:
I also know that my wife apparently sided strongly with me, and said that "she would never do that to me", and was quite upset at the suggestion. I don't have many more details beyond this as to why this was all said, but I do plan on finding out.
This really upsets me, because despite a drought period, we started to work on us and our sex life improved greatly, we were in a happier place, but since that trip home, everything became on hold. I'm now getting the standard "everything is about sex" speeches (read later post in other thread).
Now...on finding this out I really want to tear the MIL a new a##hole, and ask her what the F she thinks she's playing at? Whether I'll get any semblance of truth or not is a different question, but I was hoping that in whatever exchange goes down I may get at least some insight into what my wife's issues are, as she clams up when I approach her about things.
I consider the MIL toxic, as far as I'm concerned she can stay out of my life, problem is she is her mother so I don't really know how to deal with this going forward. If it was a toxic friend then it's easier to cut contact etc.
I really appreciate advice:
I am just so angry right now :mad:
I was wondering why the drinking had increased and sex had come to a screeching halt, and it centred around my wife's last trip home to visit her parents (I didn't go by the way as I was working on a business trip).
I have it on good authority, that despite my wife being a tad distrustful of her mother, my wife may have discussed some of our issues with her. The MIL is probably one of the most narcissistic and self centred person you could meet, we have never really got on that well, and over the years her comments have often been targeted when she has an audience and when myself or my wife least wanted to kick off and argument (i.e family gatherings, birthday parties etc).
Anyway, my point I have learnt that on her last visit home something was discussed to the point where her mother had suggested my wife "go off and have an affair" :scratchhead:
I also know that my wife apparently sided strongly with me, and said that "she would never do that to me", and was quite upset at the suggestion. I don't have many more details beyond this as to why this was all said, but I do plan on finding out.
This really upsets me, because despite a drought period, we started to work on us and our sex life improved greatly, we were in a happier place, but since that trip home, everything became on hold. I'm now getting the standard "everything is about sex" speeches (read later post in other thread).
Now...on finding this out I really want to tear the MIL a new a##hole, and ask her what the F she thinks she's playing at? Whether I'll get any semblance of truth or not is a different question, but I was hoping that in whatever exchange goes down I may get at least some insight into what my wife's issues are, as she clams up when I approach her about things.
I consider the MIL toxic, as far as I'm concerned she can stay out of my life, problem is she is her mother so I don't really know how to deal with this going forward. If it was a toxic friend then it's easier to cut contact etc.
I really appreciate advice:
- How far to go with MIL - have it out with her?
- Extent of boundary and future contact?
- I'm upset my wife never even mentioned this - how to deal with fallout with my wife from any heated discussion with MIL?
I am just so angry right now :mad:
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