I used to have a fantastic relationship with my husband. People used to comment on the way he looked at me. That's not to say there were never any problems. Although we didn't fight often, when we did it was like we did not know how to fight without saying something damaging to the relationship. Fast forward a few years, we are now married and have a newborn, who was a complete surprise to our lives. Complicating the situation is my husband's unhappiness over working with my father in the family business. He had left his job in a different state in order to do this as within his career his options are limited in terms of location. This was completely his decision and it made sense based on our long term vision for our eventual family. Now this is not working out and he's like a different person. He drinks a bottle of wine a night and on some days doesn't even look at our son. He has said he is depressed because he feels worthless at his job but I have see n him like this at other times as well (although never this bad) so when he suggested we move from an idyllic location with a newborn and after moving into our dream home a year ago, I suggested he return to school as he has often felt the absence of a degree. (This was after a fight in which he cursed and made me feel horrible). He expressed his appreciation and agreed but now is saying he doesn't know how he can do that with a baby. I'm at the end of my rope and feelng like any day I'm going to explode and say things I'm going to regret. I feel like moving wouldn't solve anything as there would always be stress plus I don't want to move with this unsupportive stranger I find myself married to. Any advice on how to communicate this to him effectively or whether I should even be thinking about divorce? Is this postpartum hormones or Do my concerns sound legitimate?
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