I have another thread here about my husband and I working on our reconciliation after I was unfaithful to him last year. That is a separate issue we are working out, but he is emotionally and verbally abusive- and it's mostly linked to his drinking.
This issue began with the birth of our daughter (3yo), and has continued throughout our marriage. My infidelity was last February and another smaller incident in June of last year. I'm currently about 6 months pregnant with our second child. I have been trying my darndest to make our marriage work and support him after making the horrible decisions I made. As I said- separate issue.
He has a habit of drinking, getting tipsy or drunk, and then criticizing me and everything I do that is not up to his standards. Basically, if it's not something he would do, it's wrong. I am enrolled in graduate school, I am a full time mother, and I spent several years of my daughters life also working at home while taking care of her. I work my a** off and in turn my husband never says thank you, instead he berates me regularly. The situation has only worsened after I cheated, which I know I deserve some anger, but he projects it onto every aspect of our life which is abusive and wrong.
What solution is there other than to leave? We went to counseling for about a month before he decided our counselor was stupid for something she said in a session. I'm stupid for wanting to continue seeing her in IC to work on myself. I'm stupid for going to school.. the list continues. Any argument ends in "Well you cheated on me".... I'm just tired. My friends, family, and even posters here on TAM all suggest I just leave... Not sure why I'm staying but I see tiny bits of progress and don't want to give up again. I did that once when I cheated and that was a horrible decision.
This issue began with the birth of our daughter (3yo), and has continued throughout our marriage. My infidelity was last February and another smaller incident in June of last year. I'm currently about 6 months pregnant with our second child. I have been trying my darndest to make our marriage work and support him after making the horrible decisions I made. As I said- separate issue.
He has a habit of drinking, getting tipsy or drunk, and then criticizing me and everything I do that is not up to his standards. Basically, if it's not something he would do, it's wrong. I am enrolled in graduate school, I am a full time mother, and I spent several years of my daughters life also working at home while taking care of her. I work my a** off and in turn my husband never says thank you, instead he berates me regularly. The situation has only worsened after I cheated, which I know I deserve some anger, but he projects it onto every aspect of our life which is abusive and wrong.
What solution is there other than to leave? We went to counseling for about a month before he decided our counselor was stupid for something she said in a session. I'm stupid for wanting to continue seeing her in IC to work on myself. I'm stupid for going to school.. the list continues. Any argument ends in "Well you cheated on me".... I'm just tired. My friends, family, and even posters here on TAM all suggest I just leave... Not sure why I'm staying but I see tiny bits of progress and don't want to give up again. I did that once when I cheated and that was a horrible decision.
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