I've been with my husband for 15 years and married for 9. With all the ups and downs every marriage has as well as a bunch of fairly uncommon obstacles, I have finally hit the wall.
We met playing online trivia, me in Australia, him in US. I came to Los Angeles, leaving behind my kids and grand kids, giving up my career, car, everything to be with him. I over stayed my original visa which led to a 5 & 1/2 year wait for a green card, during which time we didn't 'see' each other for over 18 months.
During that time, I had serious health issues arise including 2 surgeries and a Leukemia diagnosis. Still he did not come to visit me knowing I could not come to the US.
Now Ive found out that as far back as 2005 (the year we married), he's joined various dating/singles sites.
I went back home last December returning to L.A. in March. In that time he joined other sites stating he was divorced. I hacked into his email and found replies/responses to personal ads on Craigslist, sent/received is January.
He is totally financially responsible for me while I'm here. I have 3 chronic illnesses so can't work. I brought money with me from home so I could get myself a small car, all to no avail. Not once did he try to help me purchase one. There is no public transport near me so I couldn't go anywhere my self. I have to tell him when my/our bank account is low so he'll add money even though he never shows me his back accounts.
I am here, alone, staying in the bedroom of our apartment because that's where the TV is, with no friends, no job, no transport, no money of my own ( I sent the money I brought with me back home to protect it). And now I find out he's been doing all this, for soo long, as soon as my back is turned.
I'm done, I tried to tell him. Even showed him one of the webpages with his profile and he said "Someone must have put it on there" not him of course. I'm not an idiot but I sure have been acting like one. I won't be showing him the others,because of his temper until I get back home (flying out tomorrow pm) and I will not be coming back. I kept giving him chances, even told him 2 weeks ago, I know things so if there's anything you want to tell me, now is the time. He just says "like what? I don't have anything to tell". It's just not worth it....
sorry for the rant, but I had to vent....hopefully, my blindness will help someone else see...
We met playing online trivia, me in Australia, him in US. I came to Los Angeles, leaving behind my kids and grand kids, giving up my career, car, everything to be with him. I over stayed my original visa which led to a 5 & 1/2 year wait for a green card, during which time we didn't 'see' each other for over 18 months.
During that time, I had serious health issues arise including 2 surgeries and a Leukemia diagnosis. Still he did not come to visit me knowing I could not come to the US.
Now Ive found out that as far back as 2005 (the year we married), he's joined various dating/singles sites.
I went back home last December returning to L.A. in March. In that time he joined other sites stating he was divorced. I hacked into his email and found replies/responses to personal ads on Craigslist, sent/received is January.
He is totally financially responsible for me while I'm here. I have 3 chronic illnesses so can't work. I brought money with me from home so I could get myself a small car, all to no avail. Not once did he try to help me purchase one. There is no public transport near me so I couldn't go anywhere my self. I have to tell him when my/our bank account is low so he'll add money even though he never shows me his back accounts.
I am here, alone, staying in the bedroom of our apartment because that's where the TV is, with no friends, no job, no transport, no money of my own ( I sent the money I brought with me back home to protect it). And now I find out he's been doing all this, for soo long, as soon as my back is turned.
I'm done, I tried to tell him. Even showed him one of the webpages with his profile and he said "Someone must have put it on there" not him of course. I'm not an idiot but I sure have been acting like one. I won't be showing him the others,because of his temper until I get back home (flying out tomorrow pm) and I will not be coming back. I kept giving him chances, even told him 2 weeks ago, I know things so if there's anything you want to tell me, now is the time. He just says "like what? I don't have anything to tell". It's just not worth it....
sorry for the rant, but I had to vent....hopefully, my blindness will help someone else see...
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