Good Afternoon Everyone, don't really know if I'm doing this right, so here we go.
I am 32 years old, my "wife" 30 and our little guy is almost 3 :(
I will kind of start from where we are at right now and them have some flashbacks, as we get in to it:
3 days ago "wife" asked for a divorce out of the blue through an argument, I (being the nice guy) kept my cool and thought to myself (she's being hormonal), and told her that she needs to calm down and talk about this with a chilled mind.
(not the first time she asked for a divorce, we did the whole MC thing, the MC said after a few sessions that she needed to work on the "wife" alone or the "wife" could go to another C if she pleases, she chose the same MC. a few weeks went by and things start to be better, I started to feel better and work on my codependence issues, "wife" stoped going to the sessions).
She kept freaking out, so I left the room and went to DS bedroom.
Next day we didn't socialized at all in the morning, when I came back home from work, she was also back from work looking for day care for DS and a place for her, her mentioning that someone would have to grab DS from daycare everyday at 5:30, I said that I would do it (I have a flexible schedule at work) as more time I can spend with DS better and I said that: If we are going ahead with this I want 50% custody and that all I care is him (DS), thinking that she would back off.
Next morning she mentioned that she couldn't find a place that accept pets and that she didn't know what to do with the dog, I said: I will take the dog too, and when I left the door to go to work, it sinked in that, it was serious. So I drove to work bawling my eyes like a little girl, my whole word collapsed, again, that's when I found TAM, and read some of the stories in here (Hermes, and Stallion, so far).
After that I went to a buddy's place, had a beer and decided that not only, I am going through with this, I am also starting the 180 as soon as this beer is done, had a deep breath and chugged...
When I got home, I asked her if she had found a place yet (our DS is with MIL camping), to witch she replied: You are going full speed on this, to witch I responded: No, you started this and I am going to finish, and walked away.
I love my wife very dearly, but in the same token, I don't want the BS in my life anymore.
Any thoughts?
and thank you all in advance
I am 32 years old, my "wife" 30 and our little guy is almost 3 :(
I will kind of start from where we are at right now and them have some flashbacks, as we get in to it:
3 days ago "wife" asked for a divorce out of the blue through an argument, I (being the nice guy) kept my cool and thought to myself (she's being hormonal), and told her that she needs to calm down and talk about this with a chilled mind.
(not the first time she asked for a divorce, we did the whole MC thing, the MC said after a few sessions that she needed to work on the "wife" alone or the "wife" could go to another C if she pleases, she chose the same MC. a few weeks went by and things start to be better, I started to feel better and work on my codependence issues, "wife" stoped going to the sessions).
She kept freaking out, so I left the room and went to DS bedroom.
Next day we didn't socialized at all in the morning, when I came back home from work, she was also back from work looking for day care for DS and a place for her, her mentioning that someone would have to grab DS from daycare everyday at 5:30, I said that I would do it (I have a flexible schedule at work) as more time I can spend with DS better and I said that: If we are going ahead with this I want 50% custody and that all I care is him (DS), thinking that she would back off.
Next morning she mentioned that she couldn't find a place that accept pets and that she didn't know what to do with the dog, I said: I will take the dog too, and when I left the door to go to work, it sinked in that, it was serious. So I drove to work bawling my eyes like a little girl, my whole word collapsed, again, that's when I found TAM, and read some of the stories in here (Hermes, and Stallion, so far).
After that I went to a buddy's place, had a beer and decided that not only, I am going through with this, I am also starting the 180 as soon as this beer is done, had a deep breath and chugged...
When I got home, I asked her if she had found a place yet (our DS is with MIL camping), to witch she replied: You are going full speed on this, to witch I responded: No, you started this and I am going to finish, and walked away.
I love my wife very dearly, but in the same token, I don't want the BS in my life anymore.
Any thoughts?
and thank you all in advance
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