Hey,
I visited this site last year after I had found the my boyfriend had been talking to girls online. I was heartbroken and didn't know what to do.
I wanted to post an update to say that there is some situations that can be salvaged. My boyfriend fessed up to me, he told his parents what had happened and never once tried to blame me. This was something he had been doing long before we met, as a way of him coping with stress years ago and he just never stopped.
He was open and never lost his cool, no matter how angry or upset i got. He went to see a councilor for months and I think the shock of me finding out and having risked our relationship really woke him up. I do honestly, hand on heart, believe he has never done it since and I don't believe he ever will.
Do I get moments or worry? Of course. I think back to that time sometimes and it's like a kick in the gut. I made the decision to work on what we had as I believed we had something special. I can say now that I made the right choice. There is no illusion that if I ever catch wind of this again, there's no other chances. He's in it for real or we're not in it at all. I was very logical and honest whilst trying to work out what what to do afterwards and said that if he thought that this relationship wasn't the right thing for him, i'll bear him no ill will... i'd even cover for him and tell people who didn't know that we broke up on good terms!
I don't condone or excuse his behavior, but it is possible that people can make mistakes, learn from them, be truly sorry and you grow together as a stronger couple for it.
I visited this site last year after I had found the my boyfriend had been talking to girls online. I was heartbroken and didn't know what to do.
I wanted to post an update to say that there is some situations that can be salvaged. My boyfriend fessed up to me, he told his parents what had happened and never once tried to blame me. This was something he had been doing long before we met, as a way of him coping with stress years ago and he just never stopped.
He was open and never lost his cool, no matter how angry or upset i got. He went to see a councilor for months and I think the shock of me finding out and having risked our relationship really woke him up. I do honestly, hand on heart, believe he has never done it since and I don't believe he ever will.
Do I get moments or worry? Of course. I think back to that time sometimes and it's like a kick in the gut. I made the decision to work on what we had as I believed we had something special. I can say now that I made the right choice. There is no illusion that if I ever catch wind of this again, there's no other chances. He's in it for real or we're not in it at all. I was very logical and honest whilst trying to work out what what to do afterwards and said that if he thought that this relationship wasn't the right thing for him, i'll bear him no ill will... i'd even cover for him and tell people who didn't know that we broke up on good terms!
I don't condone or excuse his behavior, but it is possible that people can make mistakes, learn from them, be truly sorry and you grow together as a stronger couple for it.
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