Okay so I haven't been on here for over a year - here's the story.
Hubby and I were together for eight years, married for three. We had a lot of ups and downs and tried to sort through them but in the end there was an ultimate deal breaker. I found out that he had cheated on me years earlier and the woman had had a child. He had kept this from me for five years, including paying child support. We separated nine months ago but have remained friends. While I have worked on bettering myself, he began a new relationship pretty quickly. Over the years i had been suspicious of him hiding something from me and had been quite upset about it. however he convinced me that it was all in my head and that i was overreacting to nothing. this led to me being diagnosed with BPD. I recently realised that I did not have BPD, that my suspicions were actually correct! Recently he spoke to me about a possible reconciliation. He is willing to break up with the new woman and go to anger management. I don't know what to do. I love him still and I am willing to wor k through our issues that we had during the relationship but I don't know if I can forgive him for the lies or trust him again.
I would really appreciate any advice or stories of liars who have been capable of change.
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Hubby and I were together for eight years, married for three. We had a lot of ups and downs and tried to sort through them but in the end there was an ultimate deal breaker. I found out that he had cheated on me years earlier and the woman had had a child. He had kept this from me for five years, including paying child support. We separated nine months ago but have remained friends. While I have worked on bettering myself, he began a new relationship pretty quickly. Over the years i had been suspicious of him hiding something from me and had been quite upset about it. however he convinced me that it was all in my head and that i was overreacting to nothing. this led to me being diagnosed with BPD. I recently realised that I did not have BPD, that my suspicions were actually correct! Recently he spoke to me about a possible reconciliation. He is willing to break up with the new woman and go to anger management. I don't know what to do. I love him still and I am willing to wor k through our issues that we had during the relationship but I don't know if I can forgive him for the lies or trust him again.
I would really appreciate any advice or stories of liars who have been capable of change.
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