So WS and I had fallen into a routine. As you do. I didn't notice he was unhappy. Going through his Twitter just until January of this year I really don't believe he was unhappy.
A younger co-worker of his asked him to have a fling at a conference. It was to be over when he came home. He agreed. They had the affair. When she came home she booted her husband out of the house (this was March) and he began to change toward me then.
He said he was leaving and I asked him to stay until after Easter. I didn't know about the affair but I had suspicions based on how crazy he was being with his phone. Friday before Easter I checked his phone and found horrible text messages saying if they hurt me bad enough I may go out of state to my mother's and leave my son with him.
He said the next morning he wanted to stay in the marriage and he loved me. Then he called her and broke it off. She kept texting him and Saturday he left.
Last week he still called it 'our house' and came over every night. Now it's my house. He told me he loved me and hugged me and said he may be wrong but he just has to try this. He wasn't doing anything rash like filing for divorce.
Friday I got divorce papers in the mail. He continued to be nice.
He wanted 50/50 custody of our son. He told me he had his own bedroom there and if he had anywhere else to go he'd go. Yesterday I found a lawyer and said that because this is a new relationship and because her evil Chihuahua from hell almost bit my kid I don't want him spending the night there.
I offered him every Tuesday and Thursday to take our son out to dinner and every other weekend keep him from 8am to 8pm on Saturday and Sunday. I want Elijah to see his father. I think it's very important. Now he's pissed because we have to spend money on lawyers and he wanted to take my son to her mother's this weekend!
I feel like I"m working for my rights and my son's rights not to be messed up.
So tonight he told me he loved her and planned on getting married to her and all the stuff I did to save our marriage was pathetic and sad and I was just a bad mother because I'm keeping his son from him because I'm petty.
I swear I'm trying to give him all the time he wants. He can come anytime!
Am I crazy for hoping this six week relationship runs it's course and I can get my life and husband back? Am I wrong to deny overnight visits?
This is the lowest I've ever been in my life. I love him. I'd forgive him for this. He is the great love of my life and I feel like we have a strong marriage. But am I holding onto hope where there is none? All the relationship books say he's in the affair fog right now and if I ignore him and stay firm I have a chance of winning my husband back.
A younger co-worker of his asked him to have a fling at a conference. It was to be over when he came home. He agreed. They had the affair. When she came home she booted her husband out of the house (this was March) and he began to change toward me then.
He said he was leaving and I asked him to stay until after Easter. I didn't know about the affair but I had suspicions based on how crazy he was being with his phone. Friday before Easter I checked his phone and found horrible text messages saying if they hurt me bad enough I may go out of state to my mother's and leave my son with him.
He said the next morning he wanted to stay in the marriage and he loved me. Then he called her and broke it off. She kept texting him and Saturday he left.
Last week he still called it 'our house' and came over every night. Now it's my house. He told me he loved me and hugged me and said he may be wrong but he just has to try this. He wasn't doing anything rash like filing for divorce.
Friday I got divorce papers in the mail. He continued to be nice.
He wanted 50/50 custody of our son. He told me he had his own bedroom there and if he had anywhere else to go he'd go. Yesterday I found a lawyer and said that because this is a new relationship and because her evil Chihuahua from hell almost bit my kid I don't want him spending the night there.
I offered him every Tuesday and Thursday to take our son out to dinner and every other weekend keep him from 8am to 8pm on Saturday and Sunday. I want Elijah to see his father. I think it's very important. Now he's pissed because we have to spend money on lawyers and he wanted to take my son to her mother's this weekend!
I feel like I"m working for my rights and my son's rights not to be messed up.
So tonight he told me he loved her and planned on getting married to her and all the stuff I did to save our marriage was pathetic and sad and I was just a bad mother because I'm keeping his son from him because I'm petty.
I swear I'm trying to give him all the time he wants. He can come anytime!
Am I crazy for hoping this six week relationship runs it's course and I can get my life and husband back? Am I wrong to deny overnight visits?
This is the lowest I've ever been in my life. I love him. I'd forgive him for this. He is the great love of my life and I feel like we have a strong marriage. But am I holding onto hope where there is none? All the relationship books say he's in the affair fog right now and if I ignore him and stay firm I have a chance of winning my husband back.
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