My husband and I have been married for almost 18 years, been together for over 20 years. I love this man. We have children and grandchildren. He is good to me.
His job recently changed. He has been with the same company for 16 years. His new position requires him to be out of state during the week. He comes home Friday evenings and leaves again Monday mornings. I'm ok with this. It has taken some getting used to, but we are in a routine now and it works. We still have one minor child at home, as well as one of our daughters and granddaughter. I am very active with our granddaughter during the week as I keep her while her mommy works (she is a single mom). My days are busy, so I don't think about him being gone so much. Night time is harder. I miss him snoring in bed beside me. I get lonely.
My problem is that I'm finding myself being lonely on the weekends, too...when he's home. I know there is a lot to do in the 2 days he is home every week, and although I try to make things easier for him by doing all I can during the week, there are still things that he feels only he can do. He goes to bed early (before 8pm sometimes), and he spends a lot of time in our room watching CNN or his outdoor channels. I try to be understanding. His job is demanding. He's tired and sometimes stressed about meeting deadlines or passing inspections. He drives 5 hours on Fridays to get home, so the last thing he wants to do is get into a vehicle on the weekends. We don't go out or do anything.
Sex is good - always has been, although my drive is way below his - we still manage to be intimate every weekends....I do have some problems there, but I will save those for another post as this one is really focused on me being lonely.
I don't want to make a big deal out of this with him, as he has said he will quit his job and find something else if this isn't working for us ... but that really isn't an option. A man just can't give up 16 years with the same company because his wife is lonely, ya know?
His job recently changed. He has been with the same company for 16 years. His new position requires him to be out of state during the week. He comes home Friday evenings and leaves again Monday mornings. I'm ok with this. It has taken some getting used to, but we are in a routine now and it works. We still have one minor child at home, as well as one of our daughters and granddaughter. I am very active with our granddaughter during the week as I keep her while her mommy works (she is a single mom). My days are busy, so I don't think about him being gone so much. Night time is harder. I miss him snoring in bed beside me. I get lonely.
My problem is that I'm finding myself being lonely on the weekends, too...when he's home. I know there is a lot to do in the 2 days he is home every week, and although I try to make things easier for him by doing all I can during the week, there are still things that he feels only he can do. He goes to bed early (before 8pm sometimes), and he spends a lot of time in our room watching CNN or his outdoor channels. I try to be understanding. His job is demanding. He's tired and sometimes stressed about meeting deadlines or passing inspections. He drives 5 hours on Fridays to get home, so the last thing he wants to do is get into a vehicle on the weekends. We don't go out or do anything.
Sex is good - always has been, although my drive is way below his - we still manage to be intimate every weekends....I do have some problems there, but I will save those for another post as this one is really focused on me being lonely.
I don't want to make a big deal out of this with him, as he has said he will quit his job and find something else if this isn't working for us ... but that really isn't an option. A man just can't give up 16 years with the same company because his wife is lonely, ya know?
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