No More Mr. Nice Guy for Me!

For those of you who know me from the over exhausting "sexless marriage like me" thread, that I recently did away with because I was tired of "beating a dead horse" & dwelling on it. My new approach is to quit caring altogether, it doesn't mean I'm going to turn into a jerk or not be a good husband, it just means if she doesn't want to have an intimate relationship with me, so be it, I'm taking back my control. Why should we be the ones who go to counseling, read numerous books, try tons of techniques & still end up miserable, life is too short? I personally think our wives get some kind of "power trip" over the whole sex thing and I'm not letting it get to me anymore. I'm changing my whole mindset, it's been my choice to stay, after being a "doormat" for most of my marriage, playing second fiddle to her daughter and now grand daughter, I'm going to start focusing on ME. The first change is to stop believing you're in a sexless marriage. If you aren't having sex, you aren't in a marriage, you're good friends bound legally by a piece of paper. "if you are making a cake and decide to leave out the eggs or flour, will you still have a cake, I don't think so?" Same principle, it takes several ingredients to be considered a true marriage and sex is huge on that list. If you want to spend years of ripping yourself apart with magic plans that won't work, knock yourself out, but not me. I have no desire to try again with someone else, but if I ever do, I will be gone and not look back. Has a little resentment & anger caught up with me, maybe so??

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