Enough is enough, when is that?

Hi all, It's been a while but I thought a fresh post was in order and also might give me chance to write down what we are going through. In short.... Xmas 2011 discovered wife having an affair. February 2012 got proof and called the affair out. Tried to talk about staying together, wife was clearly very involved with OM and ultimately left with out daughter and tried to set up home with OM. Affair ended, she moved to her mother's and then on to a flat where she works in the June of 2012. Since that time we have been working on R but I am finding it very difficult and she even more so. We spend most nights in each other's company but only in the same house of a weekend. We hug, kiss and spend much time doing family things but intimacy is a struggle and there is currently no sexual intimacy at all. I'm comfortable in the marital home and I cope with the living apart okay. I struggle to find her attractive but I don't know if this is a trust thing or just a basic physical attraction that is missing? She is not comfortable, she struggles every time either one of us goes 'home' at the end of an evening. She struggles that there is no intimacy and, as was the case before all this, she struggles with life in general and gets very down. I find myself supporting her much of the time, it has been this way for many years. I just don't know how much longer to keep trying, it isn't fair on her to keep dragging this on but for our marriage and our daughter I feel compelled to keep trying. :( Honest thoughts? J

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