Is there a real chance to mend this marriage?

My wife and I have been together for about 4 years, married two and a half of that. A couple of weeks ago, she caught me in a lie about smoking pot, this was not the first time. It actually was about the 5th time in our relationship. At first it was okay for me to smoke, then over time became a little more unfavorable, tho there have been times when it was okay. I think the bigger problem was not so much the actual smoking weed aspect of it as it was the lying. This last instance goes something like this: About a year ago, we moved from MN to NC for my wife's work. It had happened before, the lying, but we never fought or worked through it to a real resolution. Due to economic circumstance, we had made a choice for me to return to MN to work for a lot better money than I could make in NC, with me flying back for a weeks time every couple of months. Well, on my second trip back, at a concert we went to, I did purchase a small amount for the remainder of my stay. She realized this the next day but said nothing until the day of my flight back to MN the following Wednesday, when she asked me if I had bought some. I lied and said no... I don't know why, perhaps to try and protect her feelings. Later that morning as she was getting ready for work and I was getting ready to fly out, she stated she thought we might not be able to be together any more and needed some time apart to figure out if she wanted to be apart of this marriage any mor e. So I went back to Minnesota and we have had talks about it almost every day. Some good, some bad, some downright nasty. I had a hard time being away from her with our marriage that much in jeopardy, so I said I wanted to return to NC. She said that if I came back right away, we would be over. This fight got nasty, I accepted that it was over (so I thought) and returned to pack my belongings. Upon returning, I realized I wanted nothing to do with a divorce and leaving her and our nine fur-babies (two dogs, three cats, two chinchillas, a tortoise and a pet skink [yes I realize the last two aren't furry]). Now I am in the process of getting my things packed and am getting a U Haul to move to Florida, of all places. She says she isn't sure that there is a future for us but needs time to figure that out. Well, that's the short version anyways. I've done everything I can think of to mend this. I've apologized numerous times. I've explained my actions, not to justify them, but to be completely honest. I've bought her flowers. We've been semi-intimate upon this latest return. I just wonder if this kind of a separation has really worked for people before? I don't want to lose her at all and I can't wrap my mind around not having her as my wife but if she can't be with me anymore, I know there is nothing I can do but honor her wishes. Any words of advice or knowledge of this type of a situation would be more than helpful. Thank you for your time. Sincerely, Worlds biggest dip@#$%:( PS, please no digs or trash-talking about my wife. She is a lovely lady and I just fear I've lost her forever.

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