I've been seeing a guy for about six weeks...it started out as a ONS and that's where I thought it would end.
We've actually only slept together five times in the time we've been dating, though there was a gap of nearly two weeks where we didn't see each other at all but still texted because I had an op. Initially, I wasn't that bothered about him and didn't think it'd last beyond a few weeks, but recently I've changed my mind and I think I'm developing feelings for him, but I don't want to scare him off. Our relationship can't be long-term anyway because I'm leaving the city in eight months, but it'd be nice to know we're more than totally casual (ironically, casual was what I was aiming for at first.) Anyone who saw or in public would think we were a couple - we kiss each other hello and goodbye, holds hands all the time, whether we're walking or sat together. He initiated PDA with me from day one, but I reciprocate now obviously. He's extremely affectionate, but we just haven't had the 'us' talk yet. I'm kind of wanting to approach it, but I don't want to ruin things. For our da tes, we usually go to lunch and then have coffee for several hours.
He's been single for a longtime and is a very laid-back kind of guy, but also has a tendency towards shyness. When we're together he acts like he adores me, but I don't know whether he's avoiding it because he doesn't want to define us, or whether he's worried that I don't want to discuss us. A friend suggested that I tell him another guy has asked me out to gage his reaction. But from the little I've told him about other guys, he seems to get jealous (even if the reference is just to guys in the past that I've kissed - I was telling him what I thought was a funny story about drunken antics from before I met him and he was not amused!), so if anything I think bringing up another (hypothetical) guy might not be the way to go.
I'M 22, he's 29.
How should I approach it?
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