The OP in this thread had a bit of an unfair kicking in my opinion:
http://ift.tt/1ADByF4
We do not have the full story, but it seems he went into marriage assuming it was a partnership and both sides would try to make it work. Naive and stupid seemed to be the response.
However, having in the past sought advice from men in good marriages, I was struck my something.
Their advice was rubbish. They absolutely assumed good faith and that sure both sides would care for the well-being of the other and be willing to make some effort as long as they are appreciated? Their advice was, "have you not explained it to her? What did she say........but that makes no sense, you must have misunderstood".
In other words, we can be very wise on here, but ultimately, many people make it work regardless of not having any of that insight. Having a partner that does not have to be trained like a semi-feral puppy is a bigger factor than anything else.
http://ift.tt/1ADByF4
We do not have the full story, but it seems he went into marriage assuming it was a partnership and both sides would try to make it work. Naive and stupid seemed to be the response.
However, having in the past sought advice from men in good marriages, I was struck my something.
Their advice was rubbish. They absolutely assumed good faith and that sure both sides would care for the well-being of the other and be willing to make some effort as long as they are appreciated? Their advice was, "have you not explained it to her? What did she say........but that makes no sense, you must have misunderstood".
In other words, we can be very wise on here, but ultimately, many people make it work regardless of not having any of that insight. Having a partner that does not have to be trained like a semi-feral puppy is a bigger factor than anything else.
Put the internet to work for you.
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