I've always found it hard to get into relationships. I tend to 'friend-zone' those that I really like, and not intentionally either. It's happened 3 times now. I'll be friends with them and despite knowing I am no more than a friend to this person I seem to develop feelings for them beyond friendship further down the line (maybe a few months to a year later). It probably sounds like I do this habitually or on purpose but I can assure you otherwise, I haven't been able to help who I've fallen for. As soon as I have gotten these feelings I have asked them out and each time I have got the 'I don't see you as any more than a friend' response, as you would expect. The last one has actually wrecked a really good friendship, we don't talk anymore and it has down-right depressed me because I want to talk to her still. I've had ro distance myself (even though she is trying to stay in touch with me as a friend) because she got herself a boyfriend soon after rej ecting me and I'm still jealous to be honest. This was 6 months ago as well.
My question to you guys is to ask if anyone has been in/ is currently in a relationship that stemmed from a good friendship? Is my behaviour abmnormal? My experiences to date have not only confused me but have depressed me, I don;t feel like I'm ever going to get a good realtionship if this is how my feelings seem to operate
FYI, I have plenty of female friends and its not like im actively trying to get with them! I totally understand the advice, 'if you want more than a friendship with someone don't become their best friend' I have had a couple of relationships with people I've dated as love interests, but neither has really lasted or been meaningful.
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